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As you become more emotionally healthy, being around unhealthy people will feel more intense or overwhelming. This is just your deeper level of awareness. And it’s a great opportunity to practice responding in new ways to these people.
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The scapegoat tends to become the cycle breaker. After years of being blamed and shamed, they wake up and learn it was never them that was the problem— it was the dysfunctional family dynamic and generational trauma.
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You can also begin setting boundaries around triggers as you become more aware of them.
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Emotional flashbacks (though rarely acknowledged) are very real, intense experiences.
The emotional flooding, the intense thoughts, and the urge to completely shut down or self isolate is very real.
The most important thing is to be kind to yourself.
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parts of us. Acknowledge these parts and provide them reassurance.
5. Call your “safe person”: if you have a support person who understands your past call them. They can bring you back to the present moment.
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3. Using grounding techniques: listen to the sounds in the room, feel your feet on the ground, smell a candle— this helps bring us back to the body.
4. Tell your inner child you’re protecting them now: emotional flashbacks come from younger developmental...
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HOW TO MANAGE EMOTIONAL FLASHBACKS:
1. Acknowledge this is an emotional flashback “I’m having a flashback in the present moment.”
2. Remind yourself: “I am an adult who is safe now.” At the same time move your body— walking helps.
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We many hear an abusive parents voice in our mind saying things like: “you’re worthless.” Our inner critic becomes hyperactive.
We may spiral in our anxiety, or dissociate. Missing chunks of time and “zoning out.”
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We may have thoughts of: doom, crisis, abandonment, despair, etc.
Sometimes an emotional flashback can come out of seemingly nowhere, where we have thoughts and feelings of doom that we cannot control.
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The amygdala recognizes our partner’s words as a threat, and we enter into: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
Along with the intense emotions in the body, emotional flashbacks cause intense thoughts.
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You have an emotional flashback: a mixture of intense emotions from past childhood experiences (like shame, sadness, confusion)
During an emotional flashback, the autonomic nervous system is hyperactive from past childhood trauma.
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Meaning, we perceive threats more frequently and more intensely.
For example: let’s say your partner comes home and says “we need to talk.” Immediately your heart starts racing.
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our brain and nervous system development is impacted.
Specifically the amygdala. Our amygdala is the part of our brain that processes threats or fearful environments.
Chronic exposure to trauma as a child creates an over active amygdala.
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The impact of unsafe childhood environments doesn’t end in childhood.
If we experienced: chronic emotional abuse, neglect, shaming, parents who couldn’t regulate their emotions, or chaotic/unsafe environments as children...
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I recognize it’s the important right of any American to take the Fifth, but it’s worth noting how Hillary Clinton say through 11 hours of public Benghazi testimony and sat with the FBI for 3.5 hours amid her emails—and when Trump faces questions, he takes the Fifth.
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Cancer patients who have cancer and are pregnant will now not be able to have an abortion in many states so they can start chemotherapy and save their own life. Think about that. #WomensRightsAreHumanRights #IDissent #SaveOurLives #SaveOurRights
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The messaging needs to be clear, consistent and true. “Congress can override what the Supreme Court did and pass a law to legalize abortion. To do that, we need to elect 2 more Democratic Senators and to hold the House. Pres Biden will sign a law codifying Roe if that happens.”
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Understand what’s at stake this November. We have one shot to draw a line in the sand and send a clear and definitive message rejecting the extreme right-wing agenda of oppression. If we fail, if we fall short, if we do not show up en masse and #vote, there may be no going back.
