Allison Lau

Hi, I’m Allison Lau. Author, editor, and former PhD behavioral scientist who once tracked monkeys, now writing essays and stories about identity, love, ambition, and reclaiming your own life. I write my newsletter Monkey Girl—plus a serialized romcom. Glad you’re here.

Everyone talks about making it. Almost no one talks about staying kind while you do. Watching someone pull that off changes your sense of the possible.

There’s a kind of leadership that doesn’t posture. It just keeps building—and keeps the door open.

The most useful question I’ve picked up last year: “What would a person who already made this work… do next?” For me, that person is Amy Suto. Her latest book Write for Money & Power comes out Jan 12th and it's a game changer.

I don’t think January is for becoming someone new. I think it’s for remembering who you were before the noise.

My favorite moments from research weren’t the clean ones or the publishable ones. They were the ones that quietly dismantled a bad assumption.

The most devastating line I’ve written lately wasn’t loud or dramatic. It was: “The jungle is gone.” Some losses don’t arrive as events. They arrive as facts.

If intimacy doesn’t move the story forward, it doesn’t belong. But when it does—it’s devastatingly precise. #author #writer #romcom #serializedfiction

A good sex scene isn’t about anatomy. It’s about aftermath. Who’s braver. Who’s quieter. Who can’t go back to pretending. #author #writer #romcom #serializedfiction

Motherhood didn’t erase me. It revealed how much of me I’d been postponing. Turns out becoming someone’s safe place doesn’t require disappearing.

First touch isn’t romantic. It’s instinct. Read Love Letter to Wanderlust now ✈️🐒