DAMILOLA 

"I blame men. They will see a good woman and leave her to be following big yansh" This is one of the most stupid shit I've read on this app. It reeks of insecurity and envy. Is yansh an excuse for irresponsibility? You get yansh reach other nationalities? It is not in Nigeria we started seeing yansh, so stop making brain dead excuses. You people lack value system and character, you are blaming yansh. You are basically saying if you had yansh, you for no get sense. But as you no get yansh, you still no get sense. Nobody with sense would tweet that nonsense. Wanting a woman with yansh is a valid desire, it is not an excuse for bad behaviour. Yansh is not God's natural selection for whoredom. Whoredom is a personal decision regardless of anal proportion. Who even told you that you are a good woman because you don't have yansh? The brain dead opinions on marriage and relationship, are they not from yanshless women too? Park well.

You can’t tell men to go for the woman they can afford and want to limit the numbers they can afford. Na tomato go tell tomato buyer how many tomatoes he go buy for market? Of course he can afford you, and 20 others. You commodified yourself.

You people act like you don't live in this country. With your N300k job, you only want a man that earns N3m monthly upward. How many people earn above N250k in 9ja? Your papa create any job for this country? Interesting thing is, you are not even doing this so that when you add your own income, combined resources goes up. You just want a higher earner just so you can take and keep taking. Who damaged you? You are just looking for an excuse to never touch your own money even to the point of never doing anything for him. You don't care how he is coping. You don't care about his expenses. You don't care about his welfare. You don't give 2 fvcks about the relationship. You just expect vagina resource compensation. "What do I give to this person to make their life easier? What next do I do for this person? What can I get for this person?" is the only way to approach relationship. You have to give all of yourself and keep giving. It is the love you give that you deserve. "It doesn't have to be money. As a woman, just do the little you can do" is only what a Nigerian thief would say. Again, IT ABSOLUTELY has to involve spending your money when you are working. You must invest your money in the relationship and on your partner. Otherwise, you don't love them. If your money is not spent on them, your heart is not with them. Where your money is, that is where your heart is. - Jesus (Matt 6:21)

Even on your own self, you don't want to spend your money. You want to take from another person before you can spend on yourself, or borrow yourself your own money and expect a man to refund it. Same you would be shouting "self love and self care." You would think it is funny, it is not cute. It is madness of the mind and infirmity of the soul. You need exorcism

Love language cannot be money because love cannot be monetized. Just name price for short time. Again, only a ram would say money is their love language.