Calvin Emmanuel Omaido

You have every single right to decide whether to send money or not, but holding his children responsible for the fact that he never bought you a pen or a success card is a little unfair. What if he honestly didn’t have the ability? During my Senior four registration process, my Late Date asked me to go to my Uncles and get 150k for registration. When I visited them, the best they did was 5K for transport to take me back to town. That experience never left me the same. Fast forward; 15 years later, the same uncles called me repeatedly asking for financial assistance. When I refused and told my dad about it, he was mad at me and asked me to send the money. Because he knew I could afford a ka 200k they’d asked. When I demanded why and reminded him of how they’d treated me back then, he told me they don’t correct a wrong with a wrong. Do good even when they don’t deserve it. You will be blessed more whenever you give. I later sent them the money and forgave them. Life has been good. Never lacked, never struggled. And that’s what I live by now. Many of my relatives saw me struggle but never came through. Today I’m glad I always coming through for them. Sometimes, being in a position to help someone else means breaking a cycle, not continuing it. You don’t have to help, but if you choose not to, let it be because you genuinely can’t or don’t want to, not because someone failed to do the same for you years ago. We can’t keep preaching about breaking generational cycles while demanding that everyone treats us exactly the way we were treated. I honestly mean right here. And I understand you. I was in that same situation too. May we heal from anything our relatives had us go through while we were young.