Your story is the compass and the map to the journey that will lead them to realism, optimism, skepticism, cynicism, or fatalism.
Which will it be?
It's simple fatherly wisdom: use your brain, It's the secret weapon of underdogs everywhere, available to all and always free.
It's simple fatherly wisdom: use your brain, It's the secret weapon of underdogs everywhere, available to all and always free.
Delay is the best way to let your mind clear, to make sure that anger doen't drive you to do something you regret.
Show them what responsibility looks like. Show them how to be careful and how to always be prepared.
The way to teach a kid to love books-as the great lover of books Robert Greene has said-is by appealing to their self intrest.
Show them what they will get out of books. Tangible. Immediately.
Of course, kids can be annoying. painfully so. Kids scream in your ears and ruin your clothes with their food and dirt-covered hands.
Yet you have to absorb all of this. Even though it hurts. Even though you can't breath. You can't thrust them away.
Delay is the best way to let your mind clear, to make sure that anger doen't drive you to do something you regret.
Be kind to your family. Make sure they get the same patience and understanding as everyone else.
Actually, scratch that. Make sure they get more.
We are responsible or each other. We cannot sit on the sidelines while bad things happen in front of us.
Take a minute today and calculate what an hour of your time is worth. Think about how much more present you could be for kids if there were less on your plate.
You don't have to outsource everything, hire help for everything, but you don't have to do everything yourself either.
Presence, being there, is key to parenting.
And what are drugs and addiction and unaddressed issues in our lives but means of not being there.
"But I couldn't speak my dream without a a caveat. "I don't know," I said, "by the time I finish school I'll be fifty." He smiled at me. "You're going to be fifty anyhow," he said." -Dr. Edith Eger
