Lazy Clipper | 🍴🦌

I haven’t said much about Hina and I don’t think I will publicly. But I will say this: TLDR: Please stop telling people how to process something like a graduation. I know people think things like “they all graduate eventually” or “kinda saw it coming” or “let’s just enjoy the times we had!” are comforting and probably genuinely meant to be helpful, but they often come off as dismissive. You don’t need to reframe someone’s grief for them. They know graduations happen. They know there were good memories. Sometimes something just fucking hurts, and immediately trying to turn it into acceptance or positivity only makes people feel like they’re processing it wrong. People can be sad, angry, disappointed, confused, grateful, or all of those things at once. There isn’t a correct way to grieve the end of something that mattered to you. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is just let someone feel it. For some people, these communities become a real part of their lives. There are friendships, routines, memories, creative work and years of attachment tied up in them. When that ends, people are allowed to feel a genuine sense of loss. Not every painful thing needs a silver lining. “Everyone graduates eventually” doesn’t make the loss smaller. “At least we had the memories” doesn’t mean someone has to be ready to celebrate them right now. Being supportive and positive doesn’t make you a better fan and being angry or hurt doesn’t make you a worse one. Sometimes things just suck and that’s it…