The problem is called "lying." If people lie to be polite, they might also lie that vaccines don't kill people, or that a cop killed a black man when it was actually Fentanyl, or that tens of millions of Christians weren't murdered under Stalin. Lies have consequences. So we tell the truth because once you get comfortable lying about something so obviously and provably false, you can lie about anything. Hunter Schafer is a man and always will be, even if he cuts his dick off. If your illusions are so fragile they shatter unter the light of plain reality, that's your problem to cope with, not ours.