Olivia Wilde Explains Why Most Married Couples Stop Having Sex Olivia Wilde: “You’re supposed to be attracted to me, you’re supposed to want me, you’re my wife.” “And you can see veins popping out of my neck because I was like, ‘No!’” “It’s like you are supposed to want me forever without any participation in that, without earning it.” “We don’t talk about sex with the person we’re in a relationship with, and then decide we deserve it and it’s their fault if we’re not getting it.” “People who say, ‘We don’t have sex, but we have a really healthy relationship,’ I call bullshit on it.”