Successful relationships aren’t about two healed people coming together to have the perfect relationship. They’re about unhealed people having the courage to show the parts of themselves they usually hide. They’re about unhealed people learning how to ask for help, accept help, and build security. They’re about unhealed people forgiving themselves and each other over and over again. They're about unhealed people crying together on the kitchen floor as they repair after conflict. They're about unhealed people learning how to leave fight or flight.