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People rarely question the implications and justifications of the varying levels of dependency feedback loop within monogamy, and just assume that they're entitled to being the center (if not to being the sole shining star) of their partners' universe.
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I think that we need to recognize that monogamy’s discoursive appeal has always rested upon a power fantasy, and that because the power dynamics inherent to monogamy are rarely acknowledge, people end up leaving that unchecked with atrocious consequences.
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This worship of "the natural" is the great reactionary current of our era, driving a thousand authoritarian projects and it will probably kill us all.
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what is happening here, fundamentally, is that you and transmisogynists like you are manufacturing a form of epistemic privilege that you imagine trans women must have access to because you are too blinded by resentment to listen to us describe the contours of our oppression.
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Yes they are tbh.
Readers added context they thought people might want to know
No, it is not. Having a preference toward your sexual partner’s genitalia is not (and has nothing to do with) transphobia.
merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tra…
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But the way certain people online talk about it is obviously just a fixation on generally not being able to imagine any situation where women have power over “males”, even if said “males” are children.
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My view of the whole “teachers getting sexually harassed by students” or whatever discourse is that teachers hold obvious institutional power over children. The fact that acts of patriarchal domination and violence can sometimes flow upstream of institutional power does erase it.
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Very understandable thread. Frankly WHA has one of the biggest divides between the fandom and the work it's actually about that I've seen in some time. People want it to be a comfy cottagecore found family when it's really none of those things.
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Takes like this are always so fucking stupid to me.
When my abusive ex finally admitted to cheating on me for years it did not hurt that bad cause the reality is that as bad as cheating can be, it’s not even fucking close to “one of the worst things you can do to your partner”
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Сis people really say shit like “All natural bodily processes should be mandatory for everyone, even if they don’t want it, because natural equals good no matter what. Your body is not your own, it must at all times be subject to my personal conception of what is natural.”
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Bonus terrible person:
"Well I guess I'm a TERF then! Which btw doesn't mean anything anymore. Also REAL lesbians don't like males!"
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Genital preferences are transphobic 99.9% of the time. (The exception is legit genial phobias.) Whenever I find a post of someone asking if they are transphobic for having one, the defenders in the replies can't help but call us males.
Saying that "genital preferences" are /1
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i think a lot of trans women would benefit from adopting an attitude like this towards dysphoria. its not bad to feel bad but u need to remember that the way u talk about and engage with your insecurities can reinforce negative thoughts and make u worse !!!
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Reminds me of the time I spent the night with a girl who was lots taller than me and she asked if she could be the little spoon, and she got like visibly excited when I said of course. Anyways 5 minutes later she was grabbing my tits so hard it felt like they'd turn to diamonds
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But my biological sex isn’t “male”. Like I know that’s something super hard to get through to voters or whatever but it is actually true and it does have implications on my rights!
Many Trans leftists want to feel like hated when in reality a lot of people don’t hate you. They just believe biological sex matters.
If someone supports your right to medical transition, employment, housing but not sports they don’t hate you. They just don’t buy that you are exactly the same as a cis person.
You can’t demand ideological purity from voters.
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yeah WA is deep blue, but it’s full of these kind of “progressives” who’ve never had to challenge their own beliefs, and when they do they sound just like every other right wing bigot
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This basically already happened. It’s where the “80% of trans kids desist” stat comes from, the one now used to justify denying trans kids healthcare.
The studies behind it (mainly Toronto & Amsterdam clinics, 2008–2013) used the old DSM childhood diagnosis, which didn’t require a kid to say they were another gender. Liking the “wrong” toys or clothes could be enough, so tomboys and feminine boys got counted as “trans children.” Some studies even included kids who didn’t meet that loose diagnosis at all.
Kids who didn’t respond to follow-up were counted as desisters by default instead of being removed. Being gay or bi was seen as "desisting" from gender non-conformity. I guess they didn't think being a feminine man is gender non-conforming when it's a gay guy doing it? 🙄
They followed a bunch of tomboys and feminine boys, watched most of them grow up to be lesbians and gay men, and that’s now quoted as proof trans kids "grow out of it"
The worst fucking part: the Toronto clinic openly tried to make kids "comfortable with their assigned gender", by its own director’s account, and that outcome then got counted as kids naturally “desisting.”
The clinic was (obviously) accused of conversion therapy got shut down in 2015 following an external review.
Despite all that, the study proved that kids with more intense dysphoria were far more likely to persist. The ones who clearly met the criteria mostly grew up trans.
Research has to separate gender nonconformity from actual dysphoria, or you end up with stats like this one.
