How to become a high value man by end of 2025. Before December comes, this thread will guide you to prepare yourself in identifying your values, prioritising them in a hierarchical structure, orient yourself on a path of least resistance and start making sacrifices to obtain them, transforming you into a man of value. Write down your values. For a man, your apex value should be abundance. You must attain it, or at least be on a path that will lead to its attainment. If you are too distracted in your pursuit of women and indulgences, stop reading here. What does it mean to attain your apex value on a path of least resistance? It means you will orient yourself in a strategic manner that will lessen as many obstacles in your way of attaining your value. Your choices & time allocation will be devoted to this value. This means to count your moves. To make moves in the form of sacrifices, strictly related to your apex value. Moves that negotiate with the future and force your apex value to come to you. Count each one, & stay on the path. You will achieve abundance in two ways; 1. Leverage Competence 2. Begin your own start up To leverage competence, you will first need to take stock of your current job description, pinpoint what you’re expected to do & what you get paid for. Then, you will seek to deliver your job description at an exceptional level. You will leave no room for negligence or incompetence. You will not worry about recognition, and aim to perfect what you are required to do. When ready, you will leverage your perfection, to uptake more responsibility+authority, not money. You will negotiate that you currently do ABC for X amount, but you are willing to do ABCDE for 2 months, and if you deliver, you will rightfully request positional ascendency. When you become exceptional in your line of work, you create specific-knowledge-like asymmetry. Any asymmetry you create in your favour, can be leveraged. Exchange the value you generate easily, for the value you want. When I worked as a pharmacist, I dispensed at 30 seconds per medication, when others took 10min. I leveraged this to reduce staff, then leveraged to implement systems for cost efficiency, which made me a manager, & leveraged for corporate. Study the scenario, find the leverage. While you exercise this, you will record, print weekly reports of every sale, every profit, every satisfied customer under your name and construct an impeccable CV. So when the bosses don’t play nice, you can leverage this as a threat. If you are successful in your promotion, repeat the process. Find leverage in your new found responsibilities. You are not pursuing more money. You are pursuing more responsibility and authority. Money will come after. Leverage competence for positional power. Your competence in your job should be part of the system. You do not want your competence to self-automate in your absence. You want to become so good at what you do, that the business falls apart without you. Generate reliance to cement your leverage. Avoid redundancy. Option 2 is start up. If you want to start your own business, in my opinion it is a brutal path to take. Have a stable job before taking the risk in going for a startup. You must maintain a stable income stream for this option. You are not an entrepreneur if you are not making weekly progress. If you want to start your own business, you must have a clear deadline for weekly action & progress. Investors check progress, worth ethic & personality before investing. Your journey to abundance will kill off so many undesirable parts of you, that you will inevitably transform who you are. You’ll be forced to become strategic, think ahead, be cunning and ambitious. A force to contend with. If you don’t become disagreeable in your quest for abundance, you are not devoting enough time for your apex value: -you come first -competitive -less social -assertive -insubordinate -value driven -time conscious unconcerned for anything petty & frivolous. These qualities developed as a side effect in your path to abundance, are the traits that make you attractive. Combine this with your capacity to provide, your accountability & competence, it makes you a high value man. Your aim before December 1. Acknowledge apex value as abundance 2. Pinpoint the position you are seeking. 3. Pinpoint your path towards it 4. Pinpoint your job description 4. Write down how to excel in it 5. Plan on how you’ll leverage it once excelled By 2024, you should have improved your current position and developed, -Responsibility -Confidence -Authority -Credibility -Leadership -Disagreeableness Don’t stop. You’re set to dominate 2024. The lesson in this article is to understand leverage. When you become exceptionally competent in one domain, you can leverage it on the dominance hierarchy and ultimately increase your value. This lesson can be applied to many contexts.

The true character of a person is revealed when they no longer need anything from you. When a person a person is dependent on you, they are forced to be respectful, attentive, generous or loyal. Most people are not morally good, they are forced to be good. Constraint can mimic virtue surprisingly well.

I pray to god, to never get a person as a friend who gives flattering explanations to my wrong impulses. May the few friends I make, choose nothing but to speak truth on my face even if it offends me, for I have no need of a friend who protects my ego to preserve the friendship.

Trust should be specific, and never sentimental. "I trust him" is purely vague. The right question is "I trust him to do what, under which conditions?" A person can be trustworthy under certain conditions, yet betray you when they change. To find someone who you can trust blindly in this world, is extremely rare.

Being kind and being spineless are two different things. One comes from a position of power, the other is a product of having infinite tolerance for anything. Once people understand that every offence is excused, and you bring about enough courage to stand for yourself, you will watch them exploit you to the extends of exhaustion.

You do not offer truth to the people who want vindication. Yes, truth is intended to help but it cuts like a razor sharp blade. Most people can't handle truth, and in all honesty they don't want it. They don't want to know the solution to their problems. Most times, they just want someone to listen and agree that they were wronged.

A man with no principles is owned by whatever desire or whatever temptation is strongest in the movement. No internal rules. No standards. No limitations on oneself. Just like a dog you become drawn to whatever wags your tail. Drooling in lust. Furious in anger. Vapid in pride. Your life becomes an endless loop of regrets and disappointments.

Overexposure reduces value. This is true in relationships, friendships and social gatherings. If people have a constant access without having boundaries, they start taking you for granted. This doesn't mean manufacturing distance, but a representation that you are not chasing a great enough purpose and hence have the liberty to be available every time.

The judgement of character should never be made under comfortable conditions. It is easy to be pretentious, polite and charming in the absence of stress. Stress, pressure and unfortunate conditions make maintaining appearances extremely difficult. This is when you see the mask slipping.

Think carefully before you make a consequential decision. Act impulsively after making it. Most have it in reverse: Impulsive to commit, but hesitant to decide.

Credibility and Reputation compound slowly and crash instantly. Be the proponent of truth for hundred times and they will consider you honest and reliable. Get caught intentionally misleading once, everything you have done in your past is now questionable and open to judgment.

I will give you the best trick to eradicate fear - Make mistakes that you can survive. Understand the problem. Understand your aim. Instead of going all in, you make a small calculated move. Even minute failure teaches you what could be improved on, and it builds confidence.

If you disregard social politics just because you want the world to reward substance alone, good luck - you will be a miserable failure. The world does not work that way. Your ability impress people, hold conversations or make them feel comfortable may not be a representation of your competence or skills, yet these things predict who gets opportunity to present their competence.

There are three things to wealth: Acquiring it. Keeping it. Multiplying it. The first requires courage, appetite for risk and opportunity assessment. The second requires discipline, resource allocation and restraint to flex. The third is complicated, requires calculation, stern judgement and deep understanding of fundamentals.

People remember humiliation meticulously, and for a very long time. Doesn't matter if you have insulted them out of goodwill, criticism or have helped them countless times in the past. Generosity is easily forgotten, but revenge is carefully planned for.

It is stupid to announce your dislike of a person, be it to their face or be it behind the back. Keep it to yourself; neither joke about nor tell it to any other person in confidence. Today's enemies can become tomorrow's allies, and most often it is not a question of 'if' but of 'when'. to disregard someone is to break relationships that could be beneficial in the future.

Pick an Apex Value. Build a position around it. Generate intensity, grit and fortitude. Learn skills that reinforce your position. Build relationships that help you in times of need. Craft a reputation attached to competence. Generate enough wealth to reject bad opportunities. Experience making consequential decisions, catastrophic failure, and exponential success.