This is the only real issue. No one would have cared if Ember had said from the start that they were a man, or they made it clear that they were kayfabe. A lot of people would think that's weird, but that's OK. There are a lot of weirdos in the VTuber space, and a lot of them are men with voice changers. But if you're going to interact with people and prefice the interaction based on the perceived notion that you're something you're not, then you're going to be in hot water if / when the truth comes out. This is especially true when you're a man trying to assert themselves as a woman in a space where many people have strong opinions on transgenderism / trans-adjacent topics, and most likely would not have been accepted into that space (or at the very least treated the same way) if they presented otherwise. However, the way the issue was brought to light was genuinely treacherous. Ember was currently in an argument with someone far more degenerate. Who, by all reasonable doubt, represented everything that Strawb is supposedly against. During that argument, Strawb decided it was the best time to drop information about Ember that she had apparently been sitting on for MONTHS. In other words, Strawb DELIBERATELY attacked someone who was on her side, as they were fighting the enemy. That's like someone being drafted to the frontlines with their neighbor, then shooting them in the back in the middle of war. It's not like Strawb couldn't contact Ember, or anyone else directly. They were all mutuals as far as I know. How hard would it have been to DM the few people Ember had done a collab with and address this directly? Even an unprompted tag in a post would have been better than what she did. This entire situation seems like intentional dramawhoring on Strawb's side, even if she is technically correct in her assessment. TL;DR Both Strawb and Ember should be scrutinized for betraying peoples trust. Strawb isn't a hero, even if she tries to LARP as one.