Retired traditionally trained Direct Entry Midwife. Now a tech mom, Compiling Motherhood with too many open threads.
Joined November 2024
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When I say our suburban neighborhood is full of goats, rabbits and free range chickens … just found this in our shed.
We don’t have chickens lol
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I have a nasty history of attempting to rush sourdough. This was bulk fermented in like 4 hours at ~85 last night. Looks great but will update. Could be anything inside.
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Nearby grandparents who don’t want to be regular, active participants in their grandkids lives. 😤
People will say, “Not their kids, not their responsibility.”
No. You made the decision to have children, you committed to those humans and part of that commitment is a responsibility to THEIR children. Having Grandchildren comes with having children. It’s part of the deal.
If you don’t want to be a grandma/pa someday and engage in EVERYTHING that entails, you shouldn’t have children.
They aren’t your children, but they ARE your grandchildren.
I so look forward to my opportunity to employ all the lessons I’ve learned as a mother upon my grandbabies and be a better grandma than I was/am a mother.
You haven’t parented until you parent for the first time. There are hits and misses, things you do well and others you could’ve done better.
Thats where being a grandparent is so special. You already parented. You already made a lot of mistakes and hopefully learned from them. You can start off from day 1 already having the experience you didn’t have on day 1 of parenting.
It’s like a reward. I can’t imagine not wanting to do that.
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We’re a blended family and from blended families, my kids have 6 sets of grandparents.
All but one is active, even those 2,000+ miles away. That one is a problematic person and shouldn’t be around children anyways.
It blows my mind some nearby grandparents don’t make an effort
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Some states allow long term care facilities to come after adult children directly for payment of their parents care.
This should be banned but if it is allowed then parents should be able to do the same for grandparents who abandon responsibility to their grandkids.
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Dinner Desk: my pet project.
1000+ recipes from reliable sources. Professional algorithm that curates custom meal plans based on your tastes.
Photos are the only AI content. Recipes are real, human content.
I know many people are concerned about AI content and Data Centers. My photo generator runs on my local machine, no data centers involved.
On the left is my personal taco salad recipe and a photo of my plate which has been AI enhanced. On the right is my husbands chicken broccoli and rice recipe which I have not yet photographed so it is AI generated.
Q: Are your recipes AI-generated?
A: No. Every recipe is adapted from a trusted human source.
Some photos are AI-generated* while we kitchen-test and photograph recipes. Look for the “Kitchen-Tested” tag; photo sources are labeled.
*AI runs on a local machine. No data centers.
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My 15 year old actually recently told me that he thinks no children until 16 should have a cellphone or a personal computer LOL
As he held his phone in his hand. And I recently allowed him to move his gaming PC from the front room to his bedroom.
He said “I know! But I’m almost 16 anyways so it doesn’t matter. But you should have waited.”
I was blown away. On one hand I wish we had waited, but there were legitimate logistical reasons why it made sense at the time and his phone was very locked down until recently.
One issue I ended up having with Just No Smartphones is that this is our children’s culture and that has value, like it or not.
Usually I hate “cars are dangerous too” analogies, but I actually think they somewhat apply here.
Cars were a revolutionary invention that held significant functional purpose and also danger. Similar to smartphones. Sure, they aren’t necessary. But they hold significant functional purpose, and also danger.
And they are both a vital component of culture.
It’s developmentally important for teens to feel included and normal in their peer groups. Yes. Fitting in is developmentally important. Not “being cool” but the opportunity for a baseline level of normalness is genuinely valuable to teen development. “Othering” teens on purpose is not helpful to them.
What they actually need is to learn how and when to use tools appropriately. Not to be banned from them.
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One issue I ended up having with Just No Smartphones is that this is our children’s culture and that has value, like it or not.
Usually I hate “cars are dangerous too” analogies, but I actually think they somewhat apply here.
Cars were a revolutionary invention that held significant functional purpose and also danger. Similar to smartphones. Sure, they aren’t necessary. But they hold significant functional purpose, and also danger.
And they are both a vital component of culture.
It’s developmentally important for teens to feel included and normal in their peer groups. Yes. Fitting in is developmentally important. Not “being cool” but the opportunity for a baseline level of normalness is genuinely valuable to teen development. “Othering” teens on purpose is not helpful to them.
What they actually need is to learn how and when to use tools appropriately. Not to be banned from them.
My kids are still little but is it not possible to just not give your kids smartphones? I ask that genuinely, because our plan is to have a family living room PC and dumbphones for the kids once theyre old enough to be out and about by themselves, they can buy a smartphone once they're 18 and have the money for it. Is that unrealistic? Is it really that bad?
It’s just math …
Utah WAS significantly more conservative than California was liberal.
In the last 50 years, Utah moved from numbers like 72.8% red, to less than 60%. Whereas California only shifted from a red to blue in 1996, and only shifted to >50% blue in 2008. Meaning in the 80, both Utah and California were conservative.
If you have a pool of 30/70 mixing with a pool of 55/45, it takes a LONG time for the 30/70 to become even 50/50.
To my calculations, if you have a 2 million parts of a 70% concentration, you would need *8* million parts of a 45% concentration to hit 50%, now that’s only if they always shift at those rates and currently the concentrations are about 60% conservative and 40% conservative, which would require a shift of 2 million units.
So Utah would require between 2 million and 8 million Californians to just hit 50/50, if no votes were going to a third party.
Utah’s current population is about 3.5 million. And not all of those 1.5 million came from California. But even if they did, and if the concentration was exclusively the modern ratio, Utah would still need half a million Californians to be at 50/50.
Not to mention the cultural aspect of liberals who even willing to move to such a conservative state are likely to already be moderate/centrists to begin with.
So I’ve been thinking a lot about why Utah managed to stay Red even though we’ve had a large influx of Californians move in… (this isn’t a jab to CA… my own husband is a Californian)
And the answer came to me pretty quickly…
Most of them moved here knowing we are still largely a population of members from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Knowing that must come with some instant feelings…
Good or bad.
But I believe in this case it has been a blessing.
I believe it has kept us from getting a drive of liberals flooding our suburbs. We have Californians moving here knowing they’re going to have neighbors of our faith with conservative values and I don’t believe they’re coming here to change that but to embrace all that it entails.
I may be wrong… but we stayed RED!
I pray we continue to do so.
I pray that Texas is a cautionary tale for us here.
@DrClownPhD’s hilarious video may be satire… but we all know this is becoming a reality.
Utah needs to keep its conservative roots if we are going to be able to move through the next cycle.
(And if you aren’t following him already? Please do… he’s so great 🫶🏼…)
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One of the biggest sources of ongoing marital conflict:
I’ve lived here most of my life and my husband moved here <10 years ago.
So my husband frequently drives the .\technically correct\ route instead of the *most effective* route.
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I continue to wish all the worst days, chronic unhappiness, and joyless endeavors upon those parents who refuse to pull ALL THE WAY FORWARD to the very front of the school drop-off and pickup line.
May your life be unrelentingly burdensome.
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Gotta be the most delusional thing I’ve read on here in a while lmfao
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In twenty years nobody will know who CuriousBunnie12 is. It is highly plausible that my husband's name will be remembered in even two hundred years. Like it or not, he's shaping civilization.
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Husband puts a cigarette in his mouth.
Me, “I thought you didn’t smoke in the jeep.”
H, “I’m just putting it in my mouth”
M, “Maybe if you started sucking dick you’d stop smoking. It’d give you that *mouth feel*”
H, “Maybe if you sucked my dick more you’d stop talking and stop saying dumb shit”
M, 😂, “NVM You definitely need to smoke”
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So basically the only demographic with a republican majority was Old White Southern Men with No College Education.
Demographic is not surprising but the intensity of rejection from every other demographic and sub demographic is more exaggerated than I expected.
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