obviously manipulation shouldn’t be excused on grounds of mental illness but trying to tone-police an active split is applying rational logic to the irrational. people can manipulate on purpose, and people can act in extreme ways to avoid distress that will read as manipulation
bpd is notoriously a disorder that is near impossible to regulate alone. because it stems from chronic invalidation trauma, it makes sense that the individual who never learned to self-soothe will rely so heavily on external crutches (other people). this is why DBT is important.
I don’t even know if im Getting a tattoo. i have not communicated well. I wanted something and then did not. I want to plan my sleeve. I desperately do not want these fugly blackberries i picked like 1 month ago on a whim
ppl who say this are CIA-level gender binary enforcers. you cant deconstruct the sex/gender binary while treating men and women as distinct species incapable of understanding or loving each other. neither cishet nor queer love is inherently radical, its just love 😬














