Narcissists/psychopaths/predators have 2 completely different sides. Unless you have been targeted and feel the full force of their 'dark' side, you will find it hard to see the dark because the 'light' side, or fake façade, is so compelling. Below is a real life example of a case I worked on which involved a female predator.... The light side of the predator: Energetic. Engaging. Educated. Well groomed and professional. Had a warm, friendly style. Had a prominent business address and generalist consulting website. Contributed to domestic violence causes. Guest speaker at domestic violence events. The dark side of the same predator: Claimed 10 false tertiary qualifications on various social media posts. Lied about doing a PhD in narcissism to get access to vulnerable victims of domestic violence. Collected information from victims of domestic violence survivors under the guise of a PhD student and sold the information to their abusive partners and/or charged the victim of domestic violence for her discussion with them without previous consent. Published a website positioning herself as an expert in healing people of narcissistic abuse.