strong contender for one of my all time best thoughts
nearly everyone is in a mode where they have fixed goals and are working out the best strategies and techniques to attain them. this subjects you to optimization, which places many restrictions on you and makes your life more predictable and stable.
if instead you investigate the goals themselves, ask why you have a particular goal, and figure out if you can loosen or drop it, then you go in the opposite direction. you obtain more freedom, unexpected things happen, and life tends to become exciting.
personally I value freedom the most so I practice letting go of things religiously, but regardless of which orientation you prefer (attaining goals or freedom) this is a useful relationship to keep in mind
for every negative emotion there is a positive, non-attached counterpart. eg: I'm afraid of AI -> I am grateful for the life I have lived so far, I am honored to be human, I would not feel comfortable betting against a lineage that has survived continuously for two billion years
there are four main kinds of psychological transformation that I've experienced:
1. safety: I feel afraid -> some greater power has my back
2. vitality: I am weakened or overwhelmed -> there is more energy available to me than I thought there was
3. identity: I want to be seen for some characteristic -> noticing the beauty of something with that characteristic
4. grief: it is terrible that something has been lost forever -> I will honor its memory



