As a gay man, one of the biggest frustrations I have with modern LGBTQIA+ activism is that it insists on speaking for all of us. It doesn’t. There are millions of gay people who simply want to live normal lives, build careers, get married, have families, and be judged by the same standards as everyone else. Instead, every major corporation, activist organization, and media outlet elevates the loudest, most ideological voices and presents them as if they represent the entire community. They don’t represent me. I don’t believe biological sex is meaningless. I don’t believe children should be at the center of culture war battles. I don’t believe every institution has to revolve around identity politics. Most importantly, I don’t believe disagreeing with activists makes someone anti-gay. The greatest victories for gay Americans came from convincing the public that we deserved equal treatment under the law, not that society had to redefine reality to accommodate every new ideological demand. When activism becomes untethered from common sense, it stops building support and starts burning it. That’s exactly what we’re watching happen.