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Replying to @oludascribe
To the young man who emailed me about what I meant by
Personal Investment.
Film Form
I will answer as best as I can.
Most humans rarely admit their complicity in their sob story. They are too busy either fishing for sympathy or painting the other side as a Disney villain or both
Except in rare cases or illegal or immoral behaviour. No matter how thin you slice it there are 2 sides to a story
"Because you are giver make sure you don't fall in love with a taker. Cos a taker doesn't have limits. Neither does a giver"
Few years back i wrote a piece for Shadow&Act about promising Directors to look out for , there were 3 names and Ifeoma was one of those
Congratulations Ifeoma.
Olu retweeted
Check out the new trailer of Princess on a Hill. Now showing on @ShowmaxNG
#PrincessOnAHill #NewTrailer #Showmaxnaija
if you aren't careful, people will use flowery language to describe their selfish & self serving interests and make it sound like a noble thing that you exhaust & deprive yourself meeting them.
for the most part those who are loud about
"my love language is gifts"
are grifters, gluttons & entitled.
Ask them how many gifts/much money they've given out recently no strings attached,they cant answer
Cos they really mean l only care about receiving/being gifted.
they rarely/if ever consider how much their demands & expectations are putting on the post-bills income if the giver
as long as they get to keep theirs and spend what they are gifted or avoid using their own income to buy the things they con out of the gifter
that's NOT love
Some conversations on marriage on this app wont be so frequent, if
- character & integrity was at the top of the list of spousal choice
-people weren't resentful they have to be of service & not just served
-people didn't marry with hidden self serving motives, spouse = utility
Some people speak in hyperbole
1-cos they are dramatic
2-Cos its their means of manipulation, emotional blackmail, guilt tripping ,distraction & escape accountability Its more disingenuous than hyperbole
Reduce frustration in your life easier by discerning which is which
If you've seen a few episodes of THE CROWN, you'd see the irony in the demand for "Princess treatment"
There are obligations & accountability to
her title,
the crown,
the family
the public
more about others less about self
more duty than pampering
reality v fairy tales
Humans have always been performative in nature
But digital cameras & social media has made it 100x worse, we now have
performative:
-charity
-parenting
-relationships
-virtue
-allyship
-condemnation
theatricality & deception to create & curate an image/perception
Discern





