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Joined October 2014
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A Yearning, Not a Script Sometimes it doesn't feel learned at all—it feels wired in. Wanting more than the life you were handed can start as a quiet yearning. #desire #identity #yearning #kink #relationships
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Shrine Wants to Expand The vision is bigger than one city. We're still young, but the goal is to grow Shrine carefully and bring this kind of space to more people. #growth #community #austin #vision #shrine
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Why a Venue Beats a House Party A neutral venue changes everything. You can build real stations, create room to breathe, and make the space welcoming from the second people walk in. #venue #community #kink #eventdesign #safety
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Why Shrine Started by Accident We built Shrine because people in that in-between age range needed a home. Community changes when folks finally have a place that fits. #shrine #austin #community #alternativelifestyle #bdsm
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Belonging Is the Real Draw People don't just come to play. They come to socialize, network, and feel less alone with what they're carrying. That sense of belonging matters. #belonging #community #connection #kink #socialspace
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When the Dungeon Fell Apart When the local dungeon collapsed, people still needed somewhere to land. Sometimes the opening is just saying yes and building something simple. #community #kink #austin #originstory #bdsm
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From One Niche to Radical Inclusion What started in one lane opened up fast—swingers, poly folks, LGBTQ people, people in transition. Real community gets bigger when more people feel seen. #inclusivity #kink #poly #lgbtq #community
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BDSM Isn't Just Cruelty BDSM isn't about being mean to somebody. It's consent, curiosity, sensation, and sometimes exhilaration. The difference starts with agreement. #bdsm #consent #mythbusting #kink #education
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Austin Was More Ready Than We Knew Austin had way more demand than supply for education, inclusion, and space to explore. When the need is real, growth comes fast. #austin #community #education #lgbtq #kink
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The 'Dexter Room' Reaction People are often stunned the first time they realize these experiences really exist. Curiosity can turn into excitement in a single room. #reaction #curiosity #experience #kink #discovery
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The Misconception Between Worlds One big misconception is that kinksters don't have sex, and that shuts down curiosity fast. These communities overlap more than people think. #kink #swinging #community #misconception #education
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The Venn Diagram of Desire A lot of people don't fit one label. Kink, swinging, poly, and open relationships can overlap more than people assume. #poly #swinging #kink #openmarriage #identity
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When Pain Becomes Catharsis For some people, impact play works like a deep emotional release. Catharsis can show up in unexpected forms when trust and intention are there. #catharsis #impactplay #bdsm #emotion #trust
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Why Rope Can Feel Transcendent For some people, rope and suspension aren't just physical—they're meditative, emotional, even transcendental. That kind of trust creates a deeper connection. #rope #suspension #subspace #kink #connection
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Why Structure Makes It Safer A structured environment gives people a far safer way to learn, ask questions, and explore. Education is part of safety, not separate from it. #safety #education #kink #bdsm #community
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Yes, You Can Try Things If you're new, you don't have to just watch. Try-it stations let people explore rope, fire, sharps, and more with guidance and consent. #newbies #rope #fireplay #sharps #consent
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🎃😈 Halloween only comes once a year... make it count! Halloween Night at colette is almost here, and we're bringing the costumes, the chemistry, and OVER $5,000 IN CASH & PRIZES! 💰🔥 Sexy, scary, glamorous, outrageous, or completely unexpected. Whatever your Halloween alter
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From Skeptical to Curious I've watched skepticism soften into curiosity once people ask real questions and get honest answers. Understanding changes what feels possible. #curiosity #education #consent #community #transformation
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Why Shrine Stays Dry We keep events dry because alcohol and precision don't mix. When rope, whips, or needles are involved, clarity is part of consent and safety. #safety #consent #dryevent #bdsm #kink
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🎃😈 Halloween only comes once a year... make it count! Halloween Night at colette is almost here, and we're bringing the costumes, the chemistry, and OVER $5,000 IN CASH & PRIZES! 💰🔥 Sexy, scary, glamorous, outrageous, or completely unexpected. Whatever your Halloween alter
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