If the Toluwanisings' father doesn't want his son buried in a cemetery, then he should take his son's corpse to his own house, where he would have to see it every day. We are often too quick to push an agenda without considering the adverse psychological effects it could have on the deceased's wife. Imagine her having to see her husband's burial ground every day. Imagine their children asking, "Where is Daddy?" and their mother pointing outside to where their father is buried. Such emotional trauma can take a devastating toll on a person's mental and physical health. I lost my mother two years ago, and since the day she died, I haven't visited her shop. We have left it locked for two whole years while continuing to pay rent because I know I cannot bear the pain of seeing her belongings. I avoided going anywhere near my mother's street for two years even till now, because I couldn't cope with the memories. Even though we buried her in my father's compound, I stopped going there for two years because I couldn't bear the thought of looking at my mother's grave and breaking down emotionally. If I, as her child, could struggle this much with the pain of losing my mother, imagine what it would be like for a wife to wake up every day and be reminded of her husband's death, or for kids seeing their father's grave right outside their home, daily. The father should know better. No disrespect to the dead, but the living deserves peace, too. 🕊️