Let me make something clear because people keep deliberately missing my point. WOMEN HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL SAFE IN PUBLIC SPACES. Their safety, privacy and dignity matter. Sexual harassment and assault are real concerns, and women should never be expected to tolerate abuse. But what I am calling out is the assumption that cross-dressers and gender-nonconforming people are inherently dangerous simply because of how they look or dress. I am calling out the use of women’s safety as a blanket justification for humiliating, excluding or treating an entire group of people as predators without evidence of wrongdoing. You cannot claim to care about safety while ignoring the harassment and violence these same people may face when forced into spaces where their appearance makes them targets. We can discuss privacy, safeguarding, appropriate facilities and how to respond to actual misconduct without dehumanising people. These are not mutually exclusive concerns. Women deserve safety. Gender-nonconforming people deserve dignity and safety, too. One group’s rights do not automatically cancel out another’s. My argument has never been that women should sacrifice their safety. It is that safety must be addressed through evidence, sensible policies and accountability for actual misconduct... not assumptions about people’s bodies, clothing or appearance.

A child might be curious or surprised, but that doesn’t automatically mean they’re unsafe or traumatised. Children see people who look different every day. The solution is age-appropriate explanations, not treating gender-nonconforming people as predators. – at Nairobi, Kenya

Your niece is not a prop for your transphobia. A man wearing a wig and a dress is not automatically a threat to children. If you have evidence of someone harming a child, present it. Otherwise, stop sexualising strangers and pretending your prejudice is parental protection. – at Nairobi, Kenya