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A message for parents this fall sports season: 👇
Some parents struggle with it.
Their child isn’t getting much playing time. What do they do?
I’ve lived it.
My son was the 9th/10th man on our varsity basketball team for two years; he didn’t play in every game.
I could have gotten upset with the coach.
But there was one problem...
I was the coach.
I had coached that group since youth basketball. And in grades 1–8, my philosophy was always the same: every kid plays, every kid gets time.
But high school sports are different. And I was the varsity coach.
Once you get to the varsity level, the focus shifts to competition and winning.
That’s reality.
My son understood that. He embraced his role.
He led, encouraged, practiced hard, and made our team better.
And I was proud, not because he scored points, but because he became a leader and a great teammate.
He was also part of a team that finished 3rd at the state tournament and made memories that will last a lifetime.
More importantly, the lessons he learned through that experience have helped him tremendously as he’s become an adult.
So what can parents do when their child isn’t playing as much as they’d like?
Here are 3 things I have learned:
1. Struggle is part of sports.
High school sports are competitive. Not everyone is going to start. Not everyone is going to play the minutes they want.
That can be hard.
But learning to compete, work, improve, and keep showing up when things aren’t going your way is part of the experience.
2. Let it be their experience.
This one can be hard for parents.
We want to fix things for our kids. But sometimes the best thing we can do is support them while they figure it out.
Listen. Encourage. Cheer.
Then let them handle the conversation with their coach and decide how they’re going to respond.
3. Don’t rob them of the lesson.
Some of the best lessons sports teach come when things don’t go the way we want.
How do you respond when you don’t get the role you want?
Do you quit?
Complain?
Blame someone else?
Or do you keep working and find another way to help your team?
Those lessons go far beyond sports.
Parents, make peace with playing time.
Not because watching your child struggle is easy.
But because sometimes the lessons they learn on the bench will matter far longer than the minutes they play on the court.
Sometimes the struggle is the blessing.
Mark Laird retweeted
As an AD, you have to be willing to make the difficult decision to replace or remove an athlete who refuses to live up to the team standard, regardless of their talent.
If there is no accountability because a player is too talented to replace, your culture will eventually suffer. One athlete who consistently puts themselves above the team can poison an entire program.
Talent can help you win games, but culture is what sustains success.
In the long run, a group of athletes who fully buy into what you are trying to build will always be more valuable than one all star who is selfish, entitled, and determined to do things their own way.
Protect the standard. Protect the culture. The program comes first.
Mark Laird retweeted
🚨Job Opportunity🚨
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✅ Possible Retire/Rehire
🏈Football + 2nd Sport
North Lamar ISD is still in need of 1 more coach.
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Mark Laird retweeted
You don't need the tallest players to win high school basketball games.
You need:
- Guards who defend like their future depends on it,
- A big who fights for every rebound,
- And a team that would rather make a great pass than take a *good* shot.
Effort always wins.
Thank you to the North Lamar ISD Board and admin! Thank you @LeafMonty for believing in me!
Thanks to @coach_whitaker and @dane_hamrick for helping make this happen!
Can't wait to get to work!
Go Panthers!
Mark Laird retweeted
Nobody talks about the kid who has never been allowed to fail. Every assignment is redone until it is right. Every grade is negotiated by a parent who cannot watch their child struggle. Every obstacle is removed before he reaches it. He will fail eventually. We just made sure he has no idea what to do when he does.
The highest volume shooter on the team is only gna get maybe 15-20 shots off. He's gotta defend 40-50 ballscreens...closeout at least 50-60 times...run the floor 60+ times...box out on nearly every possession.
Great for players to hear.
@dallasmavs coach Jared Dudley how to impact winning in a world that is obsessed with scoring:
🔒 Defend Multiple Positions
🛞 Drive and Kick Decision Making
🎯 What's Your One Outlier Trait?
Social media glorifies the 20+ point per game scorer. But most teams already have one, or two of those guys.
What they’re really searching for are the players who dominate in the margins: boxing out, sprinting back, diving on the floor, the second effort, the winning habit repeated over and over again.
Your value isn’t determined by how many minutes you get.
It’s determined by what you do with the minutes you've earned.
Because that impact creates trust. And that trust creates opportunity.
And the players who consistently help the team grow usually end up growing themselves.
Indeed
As an AD, one of the hardest things leaders and friends face is personal accountability. Most people have no problem confronting opponents, officials, strangers, or even coworkers, but become quiet when it involves someone they care about. Holding friends, assistants, athletes, or people you are loyal to accountable can create conflict, awkwardness, and even strain relationships.
But leadership requires the ability to have uncomfortable conversations. Real leadership is not protecting people from accountability. It is caring enough about them, the team, and the culture to address issues before they become bigger problems.
The strongest programs are not built on avoiding tension. They are built on honesty, consistency, and standards that apply to everyone equally. When leaders fail to hold those closest to them accountable, resentment grows, standards drop, and culture slowly weakens.
Accountability is difficult because it is personal. But in healthy programs and healthy relationships, accountability should be seen as a sign of respect, not betrayal.
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
Isaiah 55:8
Galatians 4:4 looks like a transition verse.
“But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth His Son.”
If you read it fast, it sounds like a timestamp. But if read slowly, it is the most staggering sentence in the Bible.
‘Fullness of time’. Paul isn't saying God picked a convenient moment. He is saying God declared a moment complete. “The preparation is finished and everything I have been building across centuries is exactly where I need it to be”. God looked at human history and said: now.
Which forces the question. Why then? Why not a thousand years earlier, when Moses was fresh? Why not a thousand years later? What was so perfect about the first century?
I started looking into it and I have not recovered.
God needed a people with the theology. He spent 2000 years forming Israel; the covenant, the sacrificial system, the prophets, Isaiah 53 written seven centuries before Calvary, the framework of a coming Messiah who would bear the sin of the world. The Jews were shaped by wilderness, exile, and divine discipline, until the theological infrastructure for substitutionary atonement was fully in place.
But theology alone could not travel. God needed a language. Not a tribal dialect, but a universal tongue. So five hundred years before the Gospel, He let the Greek philosophers begin.
Heraclitus sat in Ephesus and concluded the universe was governed by an invisible rational principle. He called it the Logos.
The Stoics built on it. Philo of Alexandria stood at the intersection of Greek thought and Hebrew scripture and said the Logos was the mind of God in creation. For five hundred years, philosophy built a conceptual category it could not fill.
Then God sent a conqueror with no interest in theology. Alexander the Great wanted glory and empire. God let him want it. In satisfying his ego across three continents, Alexander Hellenized the ancient world and forged Koine Greek, the common tongue of the docks, markets, soldiers, and slaves. A language stripped of complexity, simple enough for anyone, universal enough for everyone.
The Hebrew scriptures were translated into it. The Septuagint was born. God used a pagan conqueror’s ambition to translate His own Word.
Then Rome came and paved the road. The Pax Romana. Piracy cleared. Stone highways stretching from Spain to Syria. A framework for movement the ancient world had never seen.
None of them knew they were collaborating.
Heraclitus thought he was doing philosophy. Alexander thought he was building a monument to himself. Rome thought it was building an empire for Rome. Not one of them understood they were stagehands. God was with Heraclitus in his pondering, with Alexander in his conquest, with Roman engineers laying stone, quietly requisitioning their work for a purpose none of them could see.
And then, when the covenant people were in place, the language primed, the roads built, and the category ready, when everything He had been quietly assembling was finally set, God stepped into the room they had unknowingly prepared.
John picked up his pen and wrote: “In the beginning was the Logos.”
Every Greek philosopher in the Mediterranean felt the ground shift. “And the Logos became flesh.” The category they spent five centuries constructing was not a principle. It was a Person.
The ‘fullness of time is not a timestamp’. It is God’s signature on a completed work. And the humbling thing is that this work was not built by saints. It was built by conquerors, philosophers, and emperors who thought they were writing their own story. God let them think that. And used every word. If this is not amazing then I don’t know what is.
If only parents really understood this...
A player called me 15 years after he graduated.
I wasn't ready for what he said.
1/5
He wasn't one of my stars. He was the kid I was hardest on. The one I benched on several occasions. The one who never quite got there on the field, but always seemed to find a way to keep fighting and to win.
2/5
He called to tell me he'd survived numerous battlefield wounds serving our country in the war with Iraq. He said: "You were the one person in my life who told me I was capable of more and
that I could never quit because I hadn’t scratched the surface of what I was capable of…and that I couldn’t lose if I never quit. Your belief in me helped me to survive when it was hopeless in war.”
3/5
I had to sit down. Because in those moments (15 years earlier) as a coach, I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing. I was just holding the standard.
4/5
Fifteen years later he was calling to tell me the standard saved his life.
5/5
Love people enough to hold the standard. Even when they hate you for it. Especially then.
That call is why I keep doing this work…Our job isn’t to be liked. Our mission is to create resilient humans who make a difference. Uphold the standard.
Mark Laird retweeted
National Numbers!
The 25-26 Chargers ranked Top 30 in NCAA DIII in nine stat categories.
Uncommon on both ends of the floor!
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#beuncommon #riseup #d3hoops – at Lancaster, PA
Mark Laird retweeted
As an AD, finding people who are truly happy for your success and genuinely want the best for you is often hard to find. When coaches come to me and tell me they may have an opportunity to take another job, I always encourage them to listen. If they believe it can better their life, their family’s life, and their career, then it is worth considering.
That does not mean I do not value them or want them to stay. It simply means I want what is best for them as people, not just what is best for our program.
Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed, grow, and become the best version of yourself.
Mark Laird retweeted
“We can’t expect to solve problems using the same thinking that created those problems in the first place.”
-Albert Einstein
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I kept this story in my pocket for a long time....
In Pittsburgh, September 15th is Roberto Clemente Day.
Every year the whole organization fans out across the city. It's like Christmas. Roberto's family is there, Vera and the boys.
My first year as manager was 2011. We celebrated. We shook hands and moved on.
We didn't win.
19 consecutive losing seasons.
2012 rolls around. Same day, same celebration. We had another losing season, our 20th consecutive.
After the ceremony, Roberto Jr. walked over.
"My mom wants to talk to you."
We went into the dugout. Me, Vera, and her three sons.
She spoke in Spanish. I played four years of winter ball so I understood enough. She wasn't angry, but she was passionate. And I kept hearing Roberto's number come up.
Roberto Jr. translated.
"My mother wants you to know that there cannot be a 21st losing season. That was Roberto's number. It would be a disgrace to his legacy."
She was staring right at me.
Before I could even think about what to say, words came out of my mouth:
"I promise you, Vera. That won't happen."
Roberto Jr. looked at me and said, "You made my mom a promise. I hope you can keep it."
I said, "I hope I can keep it too."
I didn't tell my coaches. I didn't tell the players. I told my wife. That was it.
The next year, 2013, we broke the consecutive seasons losing streak. Ended it at 20.
On Roberto Clemente Day that September, Vera came walking across that field.
And I probably got one of the most meaningful hugs I've ever received in my life.
The players did all the heavy lifting. I just got the hug.
Some promises are worth making before you know if you can keep them.
@Pirates
Mark Laird retweeted
If you are a parent trying to run a HS coach off for your kid not playing I got news for ya
You are doing your kid a disservice, you are probably a bad person, and in the long run you’ll definitely find that out
The stories I’m hearing from multiple HCs across DFW are baffling and some of yall need a reality check for dang sure
Raising spoiled brats ain’t it yall




















