Dean Thulborn

They Say It’s About Safety. But It’s Not Terfs are becoming the perverts… There’s a certain kind of hypocrisy so loud you can hear it even when the people shouting it don’t realise they’ve stopped making sense. For years now the same tired arguments have been spiralling around women’s safety, toilet panic and the mythical idea that trans people are a threat. The noise hasn’t passed. It’s only grown. So let’s get some things straight. In the UK how many women and girls were raped or sexually assaulted by trans people in public toilets last year? Zero. 0! How many women and girls were raped or sexually assaulted by men last year in the UK? Over 160,000. Source: Office for National Statistics, Crime Survey for England and Wales. If this was really about protecting women we’d be talking about that. We’d be talking about domestic violence. About the 1.6 million women who experience abuse from partners or ex partners. About the real epidemic of sexual violence in schools, workplaces, homes and police stations. But instead people have decided to obsess over whether someone with a trans flag in their bio can use a public toilet. Why? Because this isn’t about safety. It never was. It’s about distraction. It’s about control. It’s about telling certain people they don’t belong. Every generation has its scapegoats. Today it’s trans women. Before that it was gay men, Black mothers, single mums, immigrants, refugees. Always someone other. Always someone too visible, too different, too unbothered by rules written by fear. the people screaming about trans women in toilets have become exactly what they say they’re protecting you from. TERFs are becoming the perverts they try to warn you about Every day they post obsessive threads about other people’s genitals. They misgender children. They accuse survivors of lying if they’re trans. They spend more time talking about male bodies than actual predators ever could. It’s pornographic in the most invasive way. They weaponise feminism, strip it of compassion and feed it to algorithms like it’s a content strategy. Then they call themselves the victims. They’ve gone so far they’re now building toilet monitor barges. Not a joke. They are openly calling for the inspection of bodies and genitals. Not metaphorically. Literally. Grown adults who want to decide who qualifies to pee. It is violent. It is obscene. And it is happening in plain sight. Meanwhile trans people keep dying. Not just from violence but from being denied jobs, housing, healthcare, dignity. From being turned into symbols instead of seen as people. When you point this out, when you dare to say that biology isn’t binary, that intersex people exist, that gender is real and lived and embodied, you’re called delusional. As if facts are less real than feelings now. But what you’re seeing isn’t a lack of evidence. It’s cognitive dissonance. When facts threaten someone’s worldview they reject the facts instead. That’s not debate. That’s denial. Denial is a dangerous thing when it shapes policy, headlines, schools and laws. Holocaust denial. Climate denial. Transgender denial. Same mechanics. Same fear. Same refusal to look in the mirror. There’s a word for people who read all the science, all the lived experience, meet real human beings and still say they’re not real. Delusional doesn’t even cover it. Cowardly might be closer. You don’t have to be trans to stand beside trans people. You don’t have to be a woman to call out misogyny. You don’t have to be in the firing line to understand that this moment is deadly serious. If you think you’re safe from this hatred just because you’re straight, white or quiet you’re not paying attention. The people telling you to be afraid of trans women are the same ones trying to erase abortion rights, censor books, gut healthcare and roll back your freedoms too. This is not about toilets. It’s about power and power only changes when people refuse to be silent. So don’t be.