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Everyone's arguing about the father. Watch the youngest girl instead. A teenage boy gets his arm around his older sister's neck. Two women pull him off. And through all of it, the little sister, still in her school uniform, stands a few feet away and watches. Then the father walks in. He doesn't go after the son. The son leaves the frame. The father spends the next minute bent over the daughter sitting on the floor. Whatever he said to her, the order is the lesson. Who gets confronted. Who gets talked to. Who walks away. Psychologists call this observational learning. Children don't learn family rules from what parents say. They learn them from what happens after something goes wrong. Sibling violence is one of the most common forms of family violence, and one of the most excused. "Kids fight." "He's just a boy." "Don't provoke him." The girl on the floor learns what her pain is worth in that house. The boy learns what his anger costs. And the youngest learns both lessons at once, years before she can put them into words.