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What many men who defend or normalize infidelity fail to recognize is that the very value system they’re defending ultimately undermines the dating and relationship prospects of the vast majority of men. If we accept that wealth and power justify betraying one’s partner, we incentivize women to prioritize money and material security in relationships at extreme. After all, if loyalty, honesty, and commitment can no longer be trusted, financial security becomes one of the few tangible safeguards against betrayal. The logical consequence is a society where relationships become increasingly transactional, and where the vast majority of men who aren’t wealthy or powerful find themselves at a disadvantage in forming meaningful partnerships. And this is a system in which everyone ultimately loses. To me, this is a much bigger question than any individual’s morality. It’s about what kind of value system, and ultimately what kind of society, we collectively choose to build. I want to live in a society where people aspire to form genuine relationships and connections that aren’t primarily driven by money or status. Where honesty, trust, loyalty, and mutual respect are the norm, not virtues that become optional once someone accumulates enough wealth or power. A society organized purely around power and monetary incentives is one that lacks psychological safety at the most fundamental human level. And a society cannot truly thrive when people don’t feel they can trust one another. Here’s a thought experiment I often return to: Imagine you were designing a society without knowing where you would be born into it. You could be born extraordinarily wealthy and powerful. Or you could be born into extreme poverty, with every possible disadvantage. What kind of society would you design if you had to be willing to live in it regardless of where you ended up? Would you want a world where power determines whose dignity matters? Where wealth excuses dishonesty? Where relationships are primarily transactions and trust is a luxury? Or would you want a world where people aspire to something better? The values we choose to tolerate are the values we ultimately build our society upon.