“But men commit 90% of violent crime.” This might be one of the laziest responses in the gender debate. I’m going to break this down, slowly, so we can stop using regurgitated words not understanding how ridiculous this I argument actually is. First: the number isn’t even 90%. In the FBI’s 2024 arrest data, men accounted for about 79% of violent-crime arrests. That is absolutely disproportionate. I have no problem acknowledging that. But here is where people immediately expose that they don’t understand base rates: “79% of violent offenders are male” does NOT mean “79% of males are violent offenders.” Those are two completely different denominators. There are more than 165 MILLION males in the United States. There were roughly 374,000 reported violent-crime arrests in the FBI data, about 79% of which were male. That’s roughly 295,000 male arrests. Even if we pretended, incorrectly, that every single arrest represented a DIFFERENT man, that would be around: 0.18% of the male population. And arrests are NOT unique offenders. The same offender can be arrested multiple times. In fact, criminal offending is highly concentrated among repeat offenders. In one major BJS analysis, just 16% of released prisoners accounted for nearly HALF of all subsequent arrests. So yes: Men are massively overrepresented among violent offenders. AND The overwhelming majority of men are NOT violent offenders. Both statements are simultaneously true. That’s what base rates and proportionality are for. Then we get to IPV, as this repeated statement is used as justification to dismiss men’s issues, assuming, of course, that this is in defense of women Here it becomes even more interesting. There is an enormous body of research using measures such as the Conflict Tactics Scales finding substantial gender SYMMETRY in the perpetration of physical partner aggression. Straus reviewed 200+ studies finding roughly comparable proportions of men and women reporting physical aggression toward partners. That does NOT mean the consequences are identical. Men are, on average, physically stronger. Male violence is therefore substantially more capable of producing serious injury, and women experience greater injury from partner violence. Fine. Acknowledge it. But “men can inflict more damage” does not magically transform female violence into non-violence. A woman hitting a man isn’t empowering. It isn’t funny. It isn’t justified because he can probably hit harder. It’s violence. And current CDC estimates also remind us that men are not some hypothetical class of victims: about 930,000 U.S. men reported physical violence from an intimate partner in the preceding year in the 2023/24 survey. Finally, if we’re going to invoke male violence, let’s talk about who actually experiences it. According to the 2024 National Crime Victimization Survey, approximately 2.39 million violent incidents involving male victims had male offenders, compared with about 1.82 million involving female victims and male offenders. In other words, MEN themselves absorb an enormous share of male violence. So the next time someone responds to a male issue with: “But men commit most violent crime…” Ask them three questions: What percentage of men actually commit violent crime? How concentrated is that violence among repeat offenders? And who are the victims of male violence? Because “most violent offenders are men” and “most men are violent” are not remotely the same proposition. If you don’t understand the denominator, you don’t understand the statistic. And using the behavior of a tiny, disproportionately violent subset of men to assign collective guilt to 165+ million males isn’t statistical literacy. It’s stereotyping with a calculator.

My issue with the women now piping up saying to stop grouping women because “its not ALL women” 1. How does it feel? Men have been labeled for decades as a group and women didn’t give a shit. 2. You may not agree with it NOW, but I didn’t see many speaking up against all the steps that brought us here. Women allowed this, we all will be judged for it (and yes, that includes me) And to some degree, I assume there will be consequences. Not legally, but in the day to day. Women need to hold other women accountable, we expect men to do this and yet turn a blind eye or play coy when it’s women. The judgment is understandable. I don’t fault men’s response to the obviously imbalanced power/responsibility we have going on here. I hope it’s a wake up call