Bill Abner

Somewhere along the way, I believe many coaches have forgotten that mistakes are supposed to be part of development. A kid turns the ball over….bench. Misses an assignment…..bench. Makes the wrong read……yelling, running, or some other immediate punishment. Then we wonder why athletes play scared, hesitate, hide from big moments, and constantly look toward the sideline or their parents after every mistake. Accountability matters. Effort, attitude, and repeated carelessness should have consequences. But every mistake is not disobedience, laziness, or a character flaw. Sometimes a young athlete is simply learning. If we punish every mistake before we teach through it, we are not developing confident decision-makers. We are developing athletes who become experts at avoiding blame. Give kids room to fail, process, adjust, and try again. That is not lowering the standard. That is coaching.

We have coaches tossing out “offers” they have no intention of honoring and players posting “offers” they cannot accept. Wild times we are in.