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LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
I think one of my biggest pet peeves as a Muslim is the realisation that many Muslim families simply do not know how to come to terms with loving their relatives while accepting the reality that those relatives are now Christians.
They always seem to want to convince themselves that it’s just a temporary phase and that it will eventually pass.
Take a look at these two common scenarios:
>>>Scene A:
Alhaji and Alhaja, who gave their daughter little to no Islamic training, send her off to Covenant University for her tertiary education. Four years later, Mariam returns home a practising Christian.
They don’t particularly like it, but they love their daughter, so they choose to look the other way.
Two years later, she comes home with her Christian fiancé, Daniel, whom she met at university. Alhaji gets mad, insisting that he wants his daughter to marry a Muslim.
Eventually, Alhaji agrees to accept Daniel on one condition: that they must have a Nikah. 😂
So, they go ahead with the Nikah, and everyone is happy. In fact, the Nikah is conducted by some Alfas who all pretend not to know that both the bride and groom are Christians.
It makes for good comedy, if you ask me.
>>>> Scene B:
Majid was born a Muslim but eventually converted to Christianity at the age of 23.
By 25, he was an active worker in his church, and everyone, including his parents, knew just how seriously he took his new faith.
Unfortunately, Majid died of typhoid at the age of 27.
His parents, who had known for four years that their son was a Christian, then decided that he should be buried that same day, according to Islamic rites, with a Janazah prayer led by an Imam.
If his death weren’t already so unfortunate, I would say that this level of self-deception was comical.
The point is that you can love your relatives without pretending that they are still practising a religion they have consciously left behind. Accepting their religious choices does not mean you have to agree with those choices. The focus should be on investing in their Islam as kids, and not setting them on a path of failure.
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
One thing I would like to see more of is women being vocal about their contributions to the family. Not in a condescending or disrespectful way, but simply making sure their contributions are acknowledged. When you contribute to building a family, you or your husband should make it known.
This culture of protecting a husband’s dignity by keeping a wife’s contributions quiet is part of why people come online and act as though women contribute absolutely nothing to their families.
While he was putting most of his income into building a house, you were paying the children’s school fees, sending money to his family or yours, and keeping the household running. While he was saving up to buy a car, you were making sure the house was stocked with food. You were both building that family, just in different ways.
But because people only see the husband’s visible investments, they conveniently ignore the wife’s sacrifices. And when something happens to him, suddenly, everything is described as the product of his sweat, as though his wife was merely a spectator in the life they built together.
This is how society reduces women’s value to childbearing while overlooking their financial and non-financial contributions. It is also why widows and widowers are often treated so differently.
Women need to stop allowing their contributions to become invisible in the name of protecting their husbands’ image. A family is built by a team, and both people’s sacrifices deserve to be acknowledged
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
If the brides put their name, isn’t the purpose of the fan lost already?
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
Mummy zee is the monster you guys made.
Free fridge & bags of rice won't cure are mental illness.
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
As a Muslim family, one would expect Toluwani’s family to be the ones advocating for a cemetery.
Obviously, there’s clearly more to the issue than meets the eye.
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
The yoruba culture is getting eroded..The term "Oku ofo" is used to describe unfortunate and untimely death like that of Toluwanisings. In an ideal Yoruba setting the guy should have been buried immediately or day after but what do we have? families granting interviews. I'm pissed!
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
Your wife should stop working simply because you as the husband has the capacity to provide for the entire family?
What happens to Toba foshanle ni ọ́ṣàn kan òru kan?
I trust Kwara men sha, even if it means selling granite, cement, or other minerals drinks, they’ll still make sure their wives have a shop right in front of the house. 😂
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
If na the woman die all these story no go come outside na why dem no dey pity women, all of you are talking and if I ask you now with all the speculation online have you seen the woman herself talk in any video, is it not the inlaw talking ? Omo Nawa for everybody ooo
Go and ask women that are married and want to conceive (I’m not even talking about TTC women). With active bedroom activity and cycle monitoring, it can take 3-6 months before pregnancy stays. It’s even worse for women with irregular cycles.
A woman withholding sex doesn't mean she can't get pregnant for her husband, after all the marriage not new and is not everytime she deny him sex. We also shouldn't rule out that she's not telling the truth because she didn't state in her narration where she wronged her husband.
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Even in Nigeria the way some pharmacies give you bombastic side eye if you want to buy Contraceptives ehn,even with your shiny wedding ring on. Abortion is done mainly by quacks and those ile alagbo kinda hospitals.
Hospitals don’t openly do abortions except it’s life threatening
To get morning after pill lasan
Your eyes go pill 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Aboshan twice and even if it was based on emotional abuse social service won’t be on you guys case already?
Except the pills were gotten from Nigeria and no any post abortion treatment was given .
No one is saying Alimah was perfect
There are mistakes she made but that cruelty melted on her was inhumane !
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LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
Y'all women need to learn to be smart and mentally tough. Niggas are slow i promise you, they are only as "smart" as you allow them.
For one, it is illegal in every country to withhold an adult's passport against their will. She needs to file a Police case with that first.
LAGOS SNEAKERS AND ACCESSORIES VENDOR retweeted
Another thing is as a woman
Respect yourself
Respect your boundaries
Respect your sanity and be audacious about it!
Ma Shaa Allah tabarakaLlah?
Na you
Ata wewe?
Na you !
Let it be known there are consequences for disrespecting your boundaries
Read the lines
Be prayerful never to TENITIKA and let it be known that you have choices .
Ke take care.
