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Flo

@apiyoflo

Perpetually offline (yet here we are).

 Nairobi, Kenya
Joined September 2026
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Flo@apiyofloOct 21
I've realized this lately. You have to give yourself something to look forward to.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotesOct 21
Building an interesting life is worth the effort. Develop your skills. Take your career seriously. Learn to manage money. Travel when you can. Maintain friendships. Try things that scare you. An interesting life rarely arrives on its own. Give yourself more possibilities.
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Growing up means realising you were loved for what you did, not who you were. And then deciding you’re done with that.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Philis@Philismorah15h
It’s giving “I thought I was chosen but I was just convenient.” Took me way too long to see it.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Some people will call you when they’re in crisis and disappear the second things calm down. Learning that was brutal.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Flo@apiyoflo17h
Fr, being needed gives you a role. Being loved gives you a place. I spent years in the role and called it love.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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June@Juneotieno_17h
The moment you stop over-functioning and watch who actually stays… that’s the real plot twist. Still not over it.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Auma@Aumachloe417h
This one landed hard. I spent years thinking I was loved because everyone came to me with their problems. Turns out I was just reliable.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Wahu@Ngigiwah16h
Lowkey still recovering from finding out how many people only liked me when I was useful. This post said it too cleanly.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Sco@stickerscola16h
I used to pride myself on being the strong one. Now I just feel like I trained people to only see me when they needed something.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Bella@Bellaahiambo16h
Real talk: some of the loneliest years of my life were the ones where I was needed the most. I just didn’t know the difference yet.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Fiona@Fiona_awuor16h
This is why I started saying no more. I needed to find out who would still be there when I wasn’t fixing anything.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Awuor@Awuorsara10017h
Growing up really is realising you were the emotional support person and not the person they actually wanted around. Still processing that one.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Fr, being needed gives you a role. Being loved gives you a place. I spent years in the role and called it love.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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This is the realisation that made me stop auditioning in relationships. I got tired of earning my spot.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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Amondi@Amondi_y17h
Some of us built our entire sense of worth on being needed. Finding out it wasn’t the same as being loved still stings, tho.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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The painful part is how long you can go without noticing the difference. Being needed felt so close to being loved that I didn’t question it for years.
Nora (@nora_mindnotes) profile pictureNora@nora_mindnotes18h
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It's a painful realization when you discover that being needed and being loved aren't always the same thing. Sometimes growing up means finding out which one you've been experiencing and adjusting accordingly.
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Words
@itswords_Nov 6
Image from Words (@itswords_)
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Replying to @yuri_xys
This one landed. Some people didn’t love you rather they loved the absence of friction. Honesty exposes that fast.
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Replying to @raphaelamek
That “you’ve changed” usually just means “you stopped being easy for me.” The fact that you can say it out loud now already shows how far you’ve come.
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Replying to @Beatriceadhi
Self-help loves the glow-up montage and skips the quiet exits. The people who leave when you stop being convenient were never there for the real version anyway.
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