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Wife, mother, photographer, health nut, wabi-sabi enjoyer

Bay Area, CA
Joined May 2009
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
hi person actually going to therapy here: my therapist never diagnoses the people i talk about, she never blindly backs me up, and she often doesn't give me her own opinions. you know what kind of therapist Does do that, according to mine?
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
I’m on a crusade to make people stop gifting junk. It’s bad for the wallet, the environment, and the soul Stocking stuffers don’t have to suck! They just shouldn’t be random crap: The ideal items are either immediately consumable (candy, hot cocoa, etc) or something you need Good categories for the latter include: - Toiletries (nail clippers, makeup, makeup wipes, travel-size shampoos/sunscreen/etc) -Socks, underwear, gloves, hats, scarves -Books!!! -Candles and mugs -Office supplies (pens, pads, envelopes, stationery, postage stamps) -Crayons, markers, chalk -Pantry items (coffee, tea, local honey, fun hot sauce) -Headphones, chargers, and AirTags, if that’s your type of budget -Random household things that are actually useful (scissors, kitchen tools, fun soaps, batteries (I know it sounds weird but especially for toys!), Tide pens) -Seeds and bulbs for planting -Hobby items (golf balls and tees, guitar picks, yarn, fishing tackle, tennis or lacrosse balls) Basically, for the love of Christmas, avoid anything marketed as a “stocking stuffer”
This sort of consumerism needs to die. As does the concept of stocking fillers other than an orange or a lump of coal.
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
My firstborn is proof of the work I didn’t do before conception. The mold I didn’t know to address, the exogenous estrogen I was put on to “alleviate” my intense stomach cramps, the gut dysbiosis, and the stress that came from alpha-bossing and putting myself last. The result was an infant with severe acid reflux, eczema, food allergies, and ASD tendencies. Your children are the ultimate proof of work even prior to them being born.
Your children are the ultimate proof of work
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
I always assumed these ruins were 2-3 hours drive up the coast from the city, in the part of the country California decided to permanently forsake from any development or even rebuilding But they're actually INSIDE the city limits. They just keep it like that.
The average person cannot fathom the former glory of San Francisco
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Here's a list of health-related facts that you've probably not been told. -You have a higher chance of being gay if your mom was hypothyroid during pregnancy. -40g of dark chocolate can reduce menstrual pain as effectively as 400 mg ibuprofen. -Colostrum is 3 times more effective than the flu vaccine. -Being insulin resistant 2X your risk for depression. -A single bout of RT or HIIT can increase levels of anti-cancer myokines and reduce the growth of MDA-MB-231 cells in vitro in survivors of breast cancer, potentially contributing to a lower risk of recurrence. -Vitamin E therapy prevents hyperoxaluria-induced calcium oxalate crystal deposition in the kidney by improving renal tissue antioxidant status. -CoQ10 levels in hyperthyroid patients were found among the lowest detected in human diseases. -Lithium appears to be protective against aluminum toxicity in neurons. -Creatine loading can increase DHT by 56% after 7 day and 40% if 5-10 grams are used after. -When it comes to exercise a 2022 study saw the lowest risk of mortality at 150-300 min/week of leisurely vigorous physical activity, 300-600 min/week of leisurely moderate physical activity or a combination of both. -There's a chance that we could achieve a COVID mortality rate pretty close to zero if everyone had a vitamin D level >50 ng/mL. Yes, zero. -Vitamin D, A, B9 and zinc intake were lower in regions with the highest COVID-19 incidence and mortality. -Choline is crucial for proper brain development and gestational choline deficiency in animals leads to lifelong cognitive deficits. -Zinc at just 25mg can reduce depression by half and lower cortisol by up to 70% at 50mg. -In rats, taurine protects their thyroid from fluoride exposure. -Dietary vitamin B6 and vitamin E are associated with decreased odds of periodontitis. -1–2 mg/day of elemental lithium (as lithium orotate or from mineral water) cuts suicide rates by up to 80% in high-lithium regions and reduces dementia progression in RCTs at 5 mg/day. -Children with autism and/or ADHD seem to have impaired B6 utilization. -High methionine, low folate and low vitamin B6/B12 (HM-LF-LV) diet causes neurodegeneration and subsequent short-term memory loss. -Allithiamine can not only alleviate hyperglycaemia-induced endothelial dysfunction, but also reduce the level of advanced glycation end-products (AGEs). -Rosemary can also reduce the level of advanced glycation end-products (AGEs). -Astragalus supports mitochondria by scavenging harmful free radicals, reducing lipid peroxidation, increasing glutathione levels and it boosts endurance by 127% in mice. -Vitamin D dose-dependently reduces symptoms of depression. -Cannabis is cooking your brain and testicles (CBD can be helpful though). -Beta-caryophyllene (found in cloves and black pepper) increases salivary testosterone levels by 16%. -Taurine is an essential neuromodulator during cortical development. -Niacinamide can reduce plaque buildup in the brain and NMN improves insulin resistance. -Children with autism often can not utilize folate properly due to genetic impairments. -Not consuming enough B vitamins literally shrinks parts of the brain (especially B12). -B1 is crucial for gut motility and stimulating digestive enzymes. -High dose inositol (12–18 g/day) has antidepressant efficacy equal to SSRIs in multiple RCTs, with almost zero side effects. -A copper:zinc imbalance (high Cu/low Zn) is found in A LOT of cases of postpartum depression and violent behavior in teens. -10,800 FU of nattokinase per day showed significant reductions in atherosclerosis progression. -Patients who passed away from COVID had low iron, vitamin B12 and vitamin D while also having high HbA1c. -200 mg of vitamin C and 500 µg of B12 per day improve blood pressure, blood flow and reduce arterial thickness. -Vitamin C lowers cortisol by up to 40% in some cases, increases oxytocin, supports cardiovascular health, increases dopamine and lowers prolactin. -300 mg/day of ubiquinol (active CoQ10) reduces migraine frequency by up to 50–60%. -Thiamine (B1) at high doses (up to 1.5 grams) cuts fatigue nearly in half in patients with MS. -The first 27 longest living humans in history are women, and 80% of people over the age of 100 are women -Plasma donation and blood donation have been seen to decrease the amount of forever chemicals in firefighters. -Muscle androgen receptor density predicts muscle growth from resistance training far better than circulating levels of hormones -PQQ seems good for elderly individuals with mild cognitive impairment. -20 g/day of creatine loading + 5 g maintenance for 8 weeks cuts pain by 50% and fatigue by 60% in several small RCTs for fibromyalgia. -High prolactin and low thyroid hormones are common in MDD. -300 mg/day of ubiquinol cut cardiac death by 43% and total mortality by 42% over 2 years in patients with moderate to severe heart failure. -High doses of biotin can lower blood sugar by half in diabetics and increase testosterone quite a lot (even by 3X). -Vitamin C therapy might in fact increase the survival rate across all types of cancers by up to 4X. -Vitamin A improves A LOT of symptoms of autism. -Not getting enough selenium is so problematic that people with a baseline serum selenium concentration below approximately 106 ng/mL (within the low-normal range) had significant reductions in total cancer mortality and incidence of lung, colorectal and prostate cancers when supplemented with 200 µg/day of selenium. -Separating fats and carbs in meals can minimize the simultaneous availability of both substrates, reducing competition and potentially improving glucose clearance. -High dose riboflavin (400mg) works for up to 70% of migraineurs within 6 weeks. -Vitamin A is superior to steroids for masculinization before 12y.o. -10–15 g of glycine at night can improve insulin sensitivity the next day by even up to 50%. -Men taking 600 mg/day of CoQ10 for 12 months reported a 113.7% increase in sperm concentration and a 104.8% increase in progressive motility. -A single 20 g dose of creatine almost completely negates the cognitive decline from 24–36 hours of sleep loss. -I can make you insane by changing your gut microbiome. -Morning sunlight reduces the length of hospitalization in bipolar disorder. -Religious people live longer. -Higher vitamin B1, B6 intakes and plasma pyridoxal-phosphate are associated with lower risk of mortality up to 10 years. -NAC + Glycine has been shown to expand lifespan in mice by more than 20%. -Taurine has been shown to expand lifespan by 10% in male mice and 12% in female ones. -At the end of a chromosome, there are these protective caps called telomeres and the consumption of bee products showed an increase of over 0.25kbp in just a year. -Urolithin A is more effective than most of the supplements promoted for "anti-ageing" purposes. -Group sports extend life expectancy and being a cardio freak (marathon maxing for no reason (run a marathon 1/year if it's for charity for example) shortens it). -B12 supports ptp-3 and helps maintain good cognitive function in centenarians. -Biomarker differences between centenarians and diseased populations include: 1. Metallothionein 2. Good 03:06 ratio 3. Glutathione 4. SOD 5. IL-6 (low) 6. TNF-a (low) 7. Uric acid (low) -People who die by su*cide (but also have traits such as hostility(*)) tend to have modestly lower serum total/LDL cholesterol. But lowering cholesterol with statins does not increase suicidal behavior. So the proposed theory for this association remains that neuroinflammation changes lipid metabolism and results in these lower circulating cholesterol levels. (*) patients with borderline personality disorder often have lower baseline fasting serum cholesterol levels compared to patients with other personality disorders. -Eating breakfast is linked to lower suic*de rates -A meatless diet increases the frequency of depressive episodes. -When doctors say that depression is caused by low serotonin, they probably mean that it's caused by high quinolinic acid (its production outpaces its clearance, to be exact). -Autism spectrum disorder seems to be the outcome of mitochondrial dysfunction during neurodevelopment. -Magnesium intake is inversely associated with coronary artery calcification, with the risk being lowest at 450 mg/d of magnesium. -Green tea enhances the skin anti-aging effects of red light. -Giving hospitalized COVID-19 patients 30,000 IU of vitamin D daily for 3 days reduced their risk of death by 67%. -Taking ibuprofen for more than 60 days in a year makes men twice as likely to experience infertility. -66.5% of bankruptcies in the US are due to medical bills. -Mold exposure can lower the IQ of children by 10 points. -Vitamin D deficiency is linked to 60% higher odds of depression. -Nattokinase can reverse carotid artery plaque by 36% at 10,800FU (taken over a year). -Bright night light exposure is independently associated with type 2 diabetes. -SSRIs can suppress melatonin by almost 50% under normal light conditions. -Extending sleep by just 1.2 hours "offsets" 300 extra calories. -The more you increase sodium fluoride, the dumber kids become. -Exercise (aerobic) is more effective than SSRIS. -It might sound weird, but onion juice is actually effective for alopecia aerata. -Exercising 4 hours after reading something improves retention. -Creatine is an underrated supplement for lowering triglycerides. -Negative air ions (think being outside in nature) reduce depression by 50%. -Thinking that depression is a response to inflammation might be correct in a lot of cases. -By taking 600mg of NAC twice a day during flu season you might drop your chances of getting sick by up to 50% (note, NAC taken for weeks on end will deplete copper and harm some of the biofilms of beneficial gut bacteria) -240mg twice daily of Fernblock may reduce the risk of sunburn by 400% and UV damage by over 300%. -Bile treatment improves psoriasis. -Using a smartphone for 60 minutes a day lowers fertility and testosterone quite a lot. -Vapes can contain up to 20 times more lead than cigarettes. -Laughter reduces cortisol levels by up to 37%. -Vitamin K is associated with a reduced risk of cardiovascular, cancer, or all-cause mortality. -Gingerol and shogaol in ginger enhance insulin sensitivity by increasing GLUT4 expression and inhibiting intestinal glucose absorption. -Chromium enhances insulin receptor activity by improving the binding of insulin to its receptors and supporting glucose metabolism. -Myo-inositol acts as a second messenger in insulin signaling pathways, improving insulin receptor function and glucose uptake. -Fiber reduces postprandial glucose spikes. -Fasting induces FGF21. -93% of chronic fatigue syndrome patients had mycotoxins in their urine. -Glyphosate was found in the sperm of 60% of infertile men in France (in the US a bit over 80% of the population have traces in their bodies). -About 90% of people with fibromyalgia show elevated levels of mold-related toxins in their blood or urine. -A higher 4-PA/PLP ratio (the marker of vitamin B6 turnover/catabolism) might be one of the strongest independent predictors of all-cause mortality in type 2 diabetics. -One hour of chopping wood (with an axe) raises salivary testosterone by 48.6%. -Two quite underrated yet effective tools when it comes to dealing with a candida overgrowth are undecylenic acid and baicalein. -Tyrosine hydroxylase (the enzyme that converts tyrosine) can't function properly without thiamine pyrophosphate (TPP) as a cofactor. -Lactoferrin (apolactoferrin might be even more powerful) helps against Covid quite a lot and is an underatted tool for lowering VC. -630+808nm of RLT 2x/week for 6 weeks reduced abdominal fat by 4-5 cm in all participants without diet or exercise in a study. -Quercetin and EGCG are zinc ionophores (they facilitate the transport of zinc into cells). Hydroxychloroquine and ivermectin are also promoted that are zinc inophones in the alternative health spaces but that's not true. -Giving 300mg of CoQ10 in fibromyalgia patients for 40 days led to 53% decrease in total symptom score. -Taurine enhances IRS-1 tyrosine phosphorylation and reduces serine phosphorylation. -Cold exposure activates BAT, which increases glucose uptake and fatty acid oxidation. -A 25-year study of nearly 30,000 Swedish women found that avoiding sun exposure was a major risk factor for all-cause mortality (similar in magnitude to smoking). -The first time skin cancer was induced in mice was with a lamp that emitted UVC. -Testosterone increases punishment of unfair behavior. -Low creatine in the prefrontal cortex is associated with depression. -A zinc deficiency does in fact harm androgens quite a lot. -EGCG before doing cardio improves IR sensitivity by activating AMPK and reducing oxidative stress, promoting GLUT4 translocation. -HIIT increases GLUT4 translocation. -Light walking (15 minutes) after meals enhances GLUT4 translocation and glucose uptake in skeletal muscle, independent of insulin. -Hypothyroidism impairs the activation and retention of riboflavin (and maybe iron, vitamin B12, folate, vitamin D, magnesium and copper as well). *Thyroid hormones are necessary to regulate the enzymatic conversion of riboflavin (vitamin B2) into its active coenzyme forms: flavin mononucleotide (FMN) and flavin adenine dinucleotide (FAD). -Each 0.5 mEq/L lower baseline serum potassium (within the normal range (3.5–5.5 mEq/L)) was associated with a roughly 45% higher incidence for type 2 diabetes in people who were not on diuretics and had normal potassium at baseline. -This might sound weird or dumb, but lemon peels can actually help reduce cortisol. -When you are trying to learn something new for the first time. Write it down. Handwriting activates far more elaborate and widespread brain connectivity patterns, specifically in the theta and alpha frequency bands, compared to typing on a keyboard. (*) Theta waves (around 3.5–7.5 Hz) are critical for working memory, processing new information, and learning. (**) Alpha waves (around 8–12.5 Hz) are associated with focus, attention, and long-term memory formation. -Believe it or not, the mere presence of a smartphone, even if it is turned off and out of sight in a bag or pocket, significantly reduces a person's cognitive capacity available for complex tasks. -People with tattoos show a 29% elevated melanoma risk and a 21% lymphoma risk. -Testosterone's anti-anxiety and analgesic effects may be due in part to actions of its 5alpha-reduced metabolites in the hippocampus. -Our stomach pH looks like scavengers, not carnivores (the very high acidity in humans and scavengers serves the purpose of killing the high levels of bacteria and pathogens typically found in decaying meat, which was likely an important part of the early human diet during periods of scavenging). -The fatty acid composition of membranes MIGHT be one of the determining factors of maximum life span. -Intermittent fasting can increase the abundance of beneficial bacteria, such as members of the Lactobacillaceae, Bacteroidaceae and Prevotellaceae, but it's far preferable to skip dinner than it is to skip breakfast (unless you have sleep issues that are related to cortisol/poor glycogen storage etc). -Levothyroxine users (T4) had a 50% higher adjusted odds ratio for cancer at any site compared with non-users. Now, we need to note that this was an observational study and that pre-existing thyroid conditions independently alter cancer risk. But, it makes some sense since T4 is significantly more potent than T3 at activating the pro-oncogenic signals via the αvβ3 integrin receptor (like the ERK1/2 pathway). Using high doses of T3 can have its own problems (especially if you use it for no real reason), but it does not seem to impact cancer risk nearly as much. -Zinc supplementation increased the rate of wound healing by 3X in healthy young people and supplementation in a group of people aged 55-87 resulted in about 2/3 fewer infections than placebo. -People with serum magnesium above the median had 42% lower risk of sudden cardiac death and correcting magnesium deficiency may prevent atherosclerosis. -Subclinical atherosclerosis is linked to small intestinal bacterial overgrowth via vitamin K2-dependent mechanisms. -SIBO-positive patients have a significantly higher prevalence of dyslipidemia (54% vs 29% in SIBO-negative) and metabolic syndrome. -Taurine supplementation improves several cardiometabolic risk factors. -Oral supplementation with L. reuteri (NCIMB 30242) increases vitamin D levels, reduces LDL-C by 11.64% and apoB-100 by 8.41% relative to placebo. -Excess aldosterone can contribute to androgenetic alopecia. -Urolithin A enhances vitamin D receptor signaling -Melatonin and vitamin E seem quite effective for atopic dermatitis -A high dietary intake of vitamin C (≥ 75 mg/d) was found to have a statistically significant impact on reducing the risk of AD. -The brain consumes about 20% of the body's oxygen despite comprising only 2% of body weight, leading to high production of reactive oxygen species (ROS) during energy metabolism. BUT, antioxidant supplements often fail in trials and supporting the Nrf2 pathway seems to be preferable. -Decreased lipoprotein (a) and serum high-sensitivity C-reactive protein levels in male patients with atherosclerosis after supplementation with ginger. For more cool facts: fitandball.gumroad.com/l/geo…
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Just learned about mid century Eichler style homes and I’m over the moon. Next house goal
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America’s newest national park is rock solid! Chiricahua is officially our 64th national park. Welcome to the "Wonderland of Rocks."
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
Emergency tip. If you want to keep floodwater from entering doors duct tape is far more effective than a sandbag and plastic sheet combination. theconversation.com/duct-tap…
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
She is 100% correct. I remember during my undergrad I took Organic Chemistry and my professor taught us an awesome experiment. She had the whole class collect a handful of leaves in the fall and they were placed into a receptacle and monitored. Turns out dead leaves release abundant amounts of Oxygen. Leaves are great for people. Trees provide even while dying.
Don’t rake your leaves. It’s a modern day PSYOP to get you to waste your time and resources just to make your environment worse. Let me explain…
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I had my kids parent teacher conference today. As a physician who’s spent my entire adult life being tested, I was stunned by the “results” on my 5 year olds school assessment. His teacher told us he’s one of the strongest math students in the class....he’s already doing simple multiplication. But the computer based test came back low, especially in math. The reason? He doesn’t know how to use a Chromebook yet. The advice from his top rated academic school we send him to. Have him spend more time on the computer so he can do better on the next test. We’re no longer measuring what a kindergartner actually knows. We’re measuring how well he can click, drag, and navigate a screen. At five?! At 5...we are already starting to teach for the test? Insane
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
getting absolutely wrecked by this today
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I don’t understand why you can’t buy incandescent bulbs at the store anymore but you can just get them off amazon???? Anyways I finally changed all the lights in the house and it’s so nice to finally be rid of hospital lighting
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
Replying to @EdaG889915
Nickel allergy is very, very common especially for women, and worst of all, most alloys contain nickel. It should be taught in schools.
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
Replying to @markettcap
I stay away from high nickel foods (chocolate, legumes, nuts and seeds, whole grains, dried fruit, fish, and anything canned). I emphasize all kinds of meat, refined grains (white rice, white bread), low nickel fruits and veg, and low fat dairy in my diet instead. And I got rid of all my stainless steel pots and pans and switched to cast iron, enameled, carbon steel, and borosilicate glass. Dishydrosis was worse for about 2 weeks while my body starting dumping the excess nickel (others have reported extreme urine volume at the start too, since it's detoxed through the kidneys), and by 6 weeks the eczema was completely gone and has been gone for 6 months with no indication it will ever return.
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
The minds and going-abouts of the cattle are truly fascinating
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
You should be offended and call out friends and family out who do things like this. They lied to you The reason you go to people's weddings and hear their vows is so you can say "That's not what you swore in front of God and everyone you know"
My wife and I decided to get a divorce. There were no fights, just two adults who realised they drifted apart from each other. This is probably the hardest thing I had to go through. First of all, telling our girls...seeing them so sad was heartbreaking. But we are still a team as parents and will do everything for them! Also we have to sell our house, the house I wanted to live in forever and raise my kids in... Going back to a smaller appartment will be rough. I still have a lot of to handle, that's why I wasn't active here on X. I'm really grateful for all the people who reached out and asked where I was 🙏🏼 This women will always be a part of my life, she gifted me with two perfect daughters. I wish her all the best, great memories were made in those years! I'll be back soon. Thank you everyone 🙏🏼
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
Everyone is talking about how to increase your iron & ferritin. Viral posts, Substack articles and endless supplement links. But almost no one is discussing how nickel can compete with iron for intestinal absorption and potentially bug its metabolism, especially if iron intake is low or inflammation is high. Top sources of nickel: - Cacao - Lentils & beans - Oats & whole grains - Nuts & seeds - Vapes - And let’s not forget potential nickel exposure from dental devices
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honestly this rewired my fucking brain
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❣︎leyla❣︎ retweeted
As a student midwife who has attended many an IVF birth, you can almost always tell. The placentas, the random delayed PPH for no reason, the issues w the cords, the dysfunctional labors. I could go on.
Children conceived through IVF may have different DNA. For decades, in vitro fertilization (IVF) has helped millions of families have children, but the earliest days of a lab-conceived embryo may leave a permanent mark. A study conducted by researchers at Sun Yat-sen University compared blood and umbilical cord samples of 33 children conceived through IVF with those of 42 naturally conceived peers. The findings revealed that the IVF group possessed a slightly higher proportion of LINE-1 DNA sequences. Famously referred to as 'jumping genes,' these unique genetic segments are capable of replicating themselves and inserting those copies into entirely new locations within the human genome. While these genomic alterations are subtle, they represent a fascinating molecular signature of assisted conception. Intriguingly, when analyzing three families with both an IVF-conceived child and a naturally conceived sibling, the IVF sibling consistently showed elevated levels of these 'jumping genes.' While scientists emphasize that these findings do not prove IVF causes harm or directly triggers health issues, some of the altered sites are near genes associated with cardiovascular, metabolic, and neurological pathways. These preliminary results highlight the need for larger, long-term studies to explore whether the laboratory environment during IVF plays a key role in shaping our genetic blueprint. source: Li, J., Huang, J., Zhang, Z., Xian, J., Liu, Y., Zhang, Q., Chen, H., Guo, Y., & Li, Y. (2026). IVF-Conceived Offspring Exhibit Altered LINE-1 Retrotransposition Dynamics Associated with Long-Term Disease Risks. American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology.
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If you're married to someone who takes care of you, and is a good parent to your children, then you've won the game. There isn't anything out there that you're missing. You've already found what you're supposed to find. So many people ruin their lives with a vague sense of dissatisfaction that is entirely constructed within their own minds. You're not going to find the answer by separating from your spouse, ruining your children's lives, partying, sleeping with strangers, "finding yourself" by taking a plane staring into the dead gas lamp sky of a thousand cities that all look the same in the heat of your misguided misery. I've blown my life enough to know that I'm skillful enough to recreate my own personal hell no matter the circumstances. Stop trying to find the answer by running away. It's time to stay. Stay. You need to love harder. Explore what you already possess. Possess more only to give and enrich the life you currently have. Take responsibility for something important to you. Start a business. Take care of a relative. Be a better friend. Be a better parent. Create something beautiful. Love some more. Everything else is a dead end.
I had no idea 70% of divorces are initiated by women; that jumps to 90% for college educated women I have a few male friends who are going through separations that are stunning Good dads, good husbands, nothing major wrong Toxic femininity is a thing
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