Lots of black mothers do that to their children because they don’t have a man/husband to cleave to. They sabotage their children in that way. When momma doesn’t get what she wants, she pulls away and goes cold. Because the children love momma, they give in and overcompensate. It’s sick manipulation tactic that creates an unhealthy cycle. “Give me what I want or I’m going to withdraw my love, affection, and care…”