My wife and I have been married for nine years, and from the outside, our life looks perfect. We have a big house, good jobs, nice cars, and children. But behind closed doors, I’ve never been more miserable. For years, we’ve barely acted like a couple. We live almost like roommates, and I can’t remember the last time she asked how my day was. I also struggle to trust her after finding s*xual messages between her and an ex. Recently, during an argument, she hit me with a metal cord. Now I’m seriously considering divorce, but I worry about how it will affect our children.