Paternal Legacy

18 new weapons-grade parenting tips 1/ Talk to them like adults: early and always 2/ Let them be bored 3/ Your energy is the house’s vibe. It all starts with YOU 4/ Never make them finish their food “Try a bite” works better and builds their palate over time 5/ If something isn’t optional, don’t ask Example: “Do you want to go to bed?” vs. “It’s time for bed” 6/ Say yes more than no (especially as they get older) 7/ Never complain about work or chores “Work sucks” or “I hate dishes” builds the wrong mindset 8/ “You GET to,” not “you HAVE to” Ingrain this language into your being… and theirs 9/ Ask better questions “How was your day?” becomes “What’s something that made you smile today?” 10/ When they share something tricky, don’t solve it immediately Say: “I’m so glad you’re telling me this. I believe you” 11/ Never say “Don’t tell Mom” Parenting is a team sport. Kids thrive on unity and consistency 12/ 1 hour of 100% focus beats 4 hours of half-hearted attention with your children 13/ Make your home the neighborhood epicenter Watch their growth, witness team play, feed hungry teens! 14/ Do that lemonade stand They learn business; you make memories 15/ Rethink the airport: “Kids, navigate us to Gate C15” They’ll develop leadership and teamwork (just get there early 😆) 16/ Share some challenges (age appropriate) Show them setbacks aren’t avoided… they’re solved 17/ Make Xmas & birthdays about time together, not stuff 18/ Never wish away time...because the good times are happening right now

We have friends with younger kids (ours are teens). Sometimes when we plan to hang out we get a bit of a shrug because they won’t be hanging with kids their own ages. Even though they love these kids, they can’t help it. I don’t give them a hard time. I remind them we hang out with many families…and they get to hang with their friends, a lot. And then we drop it. No guilt trip. No lecture. Then our friends arrive, we hang out, everyone has an amazing time. Older kids need understanding and reminders. Big lectures except when truly necessary should be avoided

Is “actually” or “worth” Claude’s favorite word?

Grimacing during a gender reveal party shows you are a failure at thinking two steps into the future

I lost my job. First time it's happened to me. Here's the best advice I can give you: 1/ Your network is everything. As you get older, it matters even more. Build trust, do what you say you'll do. These actions compound, and when you need it most, the right people show up. 2/ Your reputation is everything. Make great deals. Leave on good terms. Put the ego aside, be easy to work with. 3/ Build on the side. I started a side business at 46… it doesn't meet all our needs, but it provides, it helps, and it's growing fast. 4/ You'll feel a range of emotions. The company was wobbling on the edge…with potential to make it big. It failed. For me it was relief first, then closure. Then "oh shit." 5/ Control what you can control. Your daily actions, your habits. Get outside, exercise, walk, run, compete. Your mindset is EVERYTHING in times of stress. With these and a little luck, everything has worked out 🙏

If you put your phone down when they talk, they will too If you apologize when you're wrong, they will too If you speak kindly about their mother, they will too If you work out, they will too If you finish what you start, they will too Kids don't follow your advice….they follow YOU

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Met a father this weekend who told me his grown children are as different as can be. Daughter is married, trad life. Son is anti-marriage and vegan. He wasn’t judgemental, loves them both.

And if you are an AI scammer in an offshore call center, you get bombed.

Never keep score in your marriage, except for orgasms. You should be losing

This big black guy w dread locks was standing in front of the grocery store entrance staring at his phone. He’s holding it so his arms are bent 90 degrees. Guy has a tennis ball for a bicep. As I pass, he looks up momentarily to orient himself and go into the store. I say, “excuse me sir, you can’t take guns into the grocery store.” For a slight second I thought what if he takes it the wrong way? 🤣 but my vibe was right and we had a good laugh and I made his day

I see people walking on the beach at 7am with sunglasses on and have an incredible urge to give them unsolicited advice

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