Almost everyone underestimates the impact of disabilities on day-to-day stuff. Getting dressed, for example. Showering. Making a sandwich. Going to the doctors. Getting on a bus. Food shopping. These things can be horribly painful, time-consuming and exhausting. And that's for the more mobile among us with less severe disabilities. I'm someone who can do wheelchair half marathons without really batting an eye, but showering, dressing and going out to socialise is seriously hard work. A few hours socialising can take the rest of the day (or longer) to prepare for and is sure to have a severe backlash the next day. Many if not most disabled people have more bad days than good. On bad days there might be no chance of doing any of these things at all. People don't see that for the straightforward reason that we're not there. It's one of of the main reasons disabled people tend to withdraw from social life and shed social capital. It's one of the main factors contributing to the isolation of disabled people. I'm not complaining, this is just how things are. But think about how hard it is for @factualmama to do a simple thing like make apple crumble for pure pleasure, the compromises she has to make and the price she has to pay. People are fond of saying that not all disabilities are visible and of course that's true. But also most of the ways disabilities really suck are invisible too.