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I have a friend who got married into a wealthy family. She comes from an average background. Ever since she got married, she has become almost impossible to reach.
Whenever I call her on Sundays to hang out, she always has one excuse or another. Sundays are my off days. I make time to rest or hang out.
One day I asked her what was going on. I told her she was not like this when we were in school. Back then she was a happening babe. What changed?
That was when she opened up.
Her husband sometimes comes home with friends and expects her to cook for them. His relatives also show up unannounced, and she is expected to entertain and serve them.
He insists on eating freshly prepared meals every day.
The most shocking part her mother-in-law calls her and expects her to come over to clean her house.
At this point, I honestly want to understand something. How does a woman get married into a family and suddenly become a domestic servant to everyone in that family?
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If you could spend this entire weekend anywhere in the world, where would you go? 🌍✈️
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There was this female friend of mine we schooled together in Benin. This girl was fine, confident, every man’s kind of dream woman. She had a fiancé who they both were living together at the time.
She got a massive contract from one Honourable living in Apo Quarters to supply furniture and fittings to his apartment.👇
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Them beat you finish, swap your XR to 11, you dey on camera to do GRWM 🤣 no worry we go soon do candle light abi night for you.
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My childhood friend's marriage ended last month, and for the first time in two years, I am genuinely happy.
Since she got married in 2024, my mum has never stopped reminding me of how fast life is moving for her.
"When will you settle down? See your friend."
"Oh, I saw her and her husband at the market."
"Did you hear? She's relocating to the UK."
"I just left their house."
Almost every time my mum called, she would find a way to bring my friend and her marriage into the conversation.
Last week, I was browsing through Facebook when I noticed that my friend had changed her name from Mrs... back to her normal name.
I checked her page and discovered that all her husband's pictures had been deleted.
Then I came across a comment.
"UK marriage is always a disaster. A marriage of how many years ended just like that?"
My friend replied, "It's well. Thank God I came out alive."
I immediately called my mum.
"Mummy, have you heard?"
"Heard what?"
"You mean you didn't know her marriage has ended?"
"I heard naaa. What do you want me to do?"....
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*At this stage Sidechicks are gone, drinking mates gone na only your wife will remain, If you like keep treating your wife like Trash that one concern you. No use ur head and treat her well📌Nti adikwa👌👌
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Marriage is funny sha...yesterday, my neighbors upstairs had a heated argument they were talkin over each other on-top of their voices with big big yoruba curses.
The wife mouth sharp ehhhh😭
She called the man very funny curses
But the man kept repeating just one curse "shey ori eh daru ni" meaning is you head not correct?
Guess who i saw outside the gate in the morning on my way out? Yeahhh it them..her husband was siting in the drivers side and she was sitting on his lap and they were doing lovey dovey🤣😂
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My church is organising a praise concert, and they sent an invitation to a Nigerian gospel singer. She charged them ₦15 million for two days of ministration.
The ₦15 million was strictly payment for her services.
For the two days, the church was also expected to provide standard hotel accommodation for her and her staff, food, wardrobe allowance and security personnel.
Now, the organising committee members are angry. They felt that since God called her to sing, she shouldn't be charging that much for ministration.
They offered her ₦3 million instead.
Her manager blocked the church committee leader on WhatsApp.
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A marriage should not a labeled or a tagged one 50/50 or 100/100.
A marriage should be between two adult who share same dreams and aspirations and want to help each other achieve it.
You pour your all into the marriage and I pour in my all as well.
You stop pouring into the marriage, I myself stop.
I can’t be using my hard earned money to train our kids and better our lives, but your own money is for vacations and to look good for me.
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Marriage is supposed to give you a partner, not turn you into unpaid domestic staff for an entire family.
Being a good wife does not mean becoming everybody's housekeeper. Marriage is partnership, not servitude.
I have a friend who got married into a wealthy family. She comes from an average background. Ever since she got married, she has become almost impossible to reach.
Whenever I call her on Sundays to hang out, she always has one excuse or another. Sundays are my off days. I make time to rest or hang out.
One day I asked her what was going on. I told her she was not like this when we were in school. Back then she was a happening babe. What changed?
That was when she opened up.
Her husband sometimes comes home with friends and expects her to cook for them. His relatives also show up unannounced, and she is expected to entertain and serve them.
He insists on eating freshly prepared meals every day.
The most shocking part her mother-in-law calls her and expects her to come over to clean her house.
At this point, I honestly want to understand something. How does a woman get married into a family and suddenly become a domestic servant to everyone in that family?
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One of my friends genuinely reached out to me and asked for my advice because she was going through something I could relate to.
I told her she trusts men too much and loves too hard. She gives her all in relationships and would rather give than receive. She uses her shop income and salary to fund love, cooks for men she's not even married to, and goes out of her way to make them comfortable.
I advised her to stop doing so much. A man should also be willing to spend his money on you, pamper you and make you feel cared for. You shouldn't always be the one giving.
She agreed with everything I said.
But this morning, I saw her WhatsApp status saying nobody should tell her what to do with her money. She's barely 23, she's young, and she wants to explore.
Guys, I genuinely feel used right now. I thought she wanted my honest advice, but maybe she just wanted someone to agree with her. 😂
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My fiancé and I have been together for almost three years, and we plan to get married next year.
When we are alone, everything is beautiful. He listens to me, respects my opinions and makes me feel like we are a team.
But whenever we are around his family, especially his mother, everything changes.
His mother makes comments about my cooking, my dressing and even the way I speak. Sometimes she makes jokes about me in front of other people, and everyone laughs.
The problem isn't even that she does these things. It's that my fiancé never defends me.
Sometimes he joins them in laughing. Other times, he tells me privately not to take things seriously because that's just how his family behaves.
Recently, his mother called to tell him that she doesn't like the idea of me working after marriage because she expects me to focus on the home. He told me we would discuss it later, but I could hear him agreeing with her.
I'm now wondering if the man I'm planning to marry is actually the same person I think I know.
I love him, but I'm scared that marriage will make things worse.
Should I continue with the wedding plans and hope things change, or should I take these signs more seriously?
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I don’t know when our young ladies would understand how powerful social media is.
You were accused of being a business woman on tinder for daily 15k and instead you to either ignore or debunk the information, you proved them right and even agreed to it.
Forming woke with the internet?
“She clearly stated her target audience”
(White men)