Yvonne Githiora

You know the problem with staying with someone who is cheating on you is that your life can slowly start deteriorating without you even realising it. You may develop anxiety that eventually leads to depression. You may lose your confidence and self-esteem, start doubting yourself and questioning your own worth. Before you know it, you're living like a detective in your own relationship, constantly looking for clues, questioning everything and overthinking even the smallest things. You lose your peace of mind because the trust is no longer there. And the sad part is that even if you choose to forgive, it doesn't mean you'll forget. You may find yourself constantly fighting battles in your mind because of something someone else chose to do to you. That kind of emotional distress can affect your mental health, your work, your relationships with other people and so many other areas of your life. The betrayal itself is painful, but sometimes the psychological toll of staying is even worse. You may end up losing yourself while trying to save a relationship you didn't break. So yes, I would leave. Not because forgiveness is impossible, but because I refuse to subject myself to a life of anxiety, suspicion and emotional instability just to keep a relationship. My peace of mind and mental health are far too important to sacrifice for someone else's inability to be faithful.